PAPAS: Children could use someone special
By Rev. PaulL N. Papas II
Fri Jun 06, 2008, 04:03 PM EDT
It is time to get out and enjoy the outdoors. Lawn movers are now in full swing making smooth green surfaces out of wild green stalks. The smell of fresh green grass fills the air. It is a time of newness and hope.
The fortunate people of this world can experience all these sights, sounds, and aromas. Some people have never experienced these blessings of life.
There are children, who through no fault of their own, aren’t blessed with all the advantages of life. For them life is more like a bunch of lemons without the ability or knowledge of how to make lemonade.
There is a very old phrase that goes something like this: “Give a man a fish and he eats a meal, teach a man to fish and he eats forever.” Rephrasing that a little you could teach people how to make lemonade out of their lemons.
If you ran across someone who obviously is having a bad day and you had no idea what is going on inside them , would you ask if there is something you could help them with and perhaps give them an encouraging word or would you react and agitate and aggravate the situation? Turn this around and let it be you who is having the bad day, how would you like someone to respond to you?
If someone fell near you, in all likelihood you would try to help them up, see if they are okay or if needed, call for help.
You might stop and help someone change a flat tire or call AAA for them.
Many people would provide a short term or a quick fix help. Unfortunately many problems require long term assistance. This is not always a matter of money. It is rather a matter of commitment.
There are fatherless children who could use a dad or close friend to teach them how to fish or make lemonade out of the lemons of life. This is a commitment that will pay dividends for decades that you may never see. On the other hand the failure to make this commitment could bring front page headlines and cost the taxpayers a lot more money.
There are adults who have lost their way who could use a dad or close friend to help get their life back on track. Perhaps they were once a drain on the taxpayers, but could become productive taxpayers.
Perhaps you have in mind a list of reasons why someone could be fatherless or lost their way. Perhaps your list included a dad killed in war, by a drunk driver, or disabled by depression.
A Dad who is disabled by depression has a physical presence, but is not able to participate in life’s regular activities. His children begin to resent him because they want and need their Dad to share their life with them, but he is not able. The Dad feels worse because he is unable to participate in his children’s lives. This cycle spirals downward for both the Dad and the children. They all need TLC. It is possible the Dad may be restored and may be able to celebrate life again. The children need someone to step up and be a Dad or close friend to help them celebrate life and teach them how to make lemonade out of their lemons in life.
Yes, the children who lost their Dads in war or by a drunk driver have a great need to fill their voids also. Could you be the one to step up and be their Dad or close friend.
Father’s Day is coming upon us. Let’s have our men be real men and not have a day just all about them. If you have children, do something special with them…..go fishing. If you know of children who could use a dad or close friend….do something special with them…go fishing.
Rev Paul N. Papas II is a Pastoral Counselor with Narrow Path Ministries (located in MA and AZ) and current President of NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) Greater Framingham. NAMI Greater Framingham has support groups for family and friends in Framingham and Uxbridge, a new support group for consumers in Marlboro, and various Education Meetings on the first Thursday evenings of the months from September through May http://www.narrowpathministries.org and http://www.namigreaterframingham.org.