By Rev Paul N. Papas II
2 January 2012
How Do You Drive?
What are your driving habits? Are you steady on the gas or do you like speed until you climb up on the car in from of you?
Do you like to pay attention to where you are going, avoiding dangers ahead? Would you prefer to keep your eyes fixed on the rear view mirror to see where you have been?
Although there are times to look in the rear view mirror it is generally accepted that keeping your eyes forward looking makes for safer driving.
So it is with life: focusing on the past, no matter how good or bad will leave you a wreck.
2011 and all previous years are history, never to be repeated again. 2012 and all future years have yet to be decided. You can decide to drive forward looking or by spending all your efforts looking in the year view mirror.
I prefer to drive forward looking toward the prize in and forward to what is in store.
There are some people who seem to be caught up in the should haves, would haves, and could haves along with the if onlys in life. Getting caught up in those things of prior moments or years is much like a rat running on wheel in cage only this time in your head. No how much you worry about the past you can not change it. If you worry too much about the past you could cause yourself so much stress that you could shorten your life. There is nothing wrong with and everything right with evaluating your past actions and learning from them. However severe worry can lead you into anxiety, depression, and even despondency which are treatable medical conditions of a mental illness.
There are life skills that each person should know, develop, and practice as ways to cope with today’s world and stress that it brings. The world we live in has so much uncertainty that no one needs to add their own self imposed stress to it.
It may seem you are all alone and your world is coming apart at the seems at times. First, you are not alone. Second, there is help available.
The tough times help us appreciate and enjoy the good times. The tough times make it possible for us to help someone else go through their tough times. Tough times do not last, tough people do.
There are many people who suffer with a treatable medical condition of a mental illness that you would not know. The reason why you would not know is because they have learned the life skills to cope with and handle their tough times. They also recognize when it is too much for them to handle and seek help.
One of the best medicines that has ever been provided is a smile from the heart and a sincere “Hi, how are you?” with matching ears to listen…and perhaps a hug.
Back to my question, how do you drive? Do you give yourself (and others) a headache with fists and starts or are you steady on the peddle? Do you focus on the rear view mirror or ahead of you looking how you can make each day better than the last? Would you join me in looking ahead to accept each day’s challenge in making it better than the others gone by, making it a Happy New?