By Rev Paul N Papas II
October 1, 2013
Whether it is on the sports playing field, in a family, or in Congress there is no “I” in team.
Let’s look at the Red Sox and the Yankees. The Red Sox seek the best players who work as a team to win championships. The Yankees buy the best individual star baseball players services with the idea that vast sums of money will purchase a championship. The difference has highlighted itself between the two teams the last couple of years. Individual stars are contracted to perform feats, then sold or traded like an oil change.
Last year the Red Sox had some good players who jettisoned the team work ethic and ended up in last place with the worst record. Changes were made that produced a healthy team environment that produced the best record, quite a change.
The Yankees on the other hand maintain the idea they can still buy a championship. The flaw in that theory is that when an individual star player gets hurt or does poorly on the field others don’t always feel the need to fill the void in production. Individual star players care more about themselves than anyone else. This year that group of individual star players, the Yankees, did not make the playoffs.
Family members don’t get traded or sign high dollar contracts to stay for a year or so. You’ve probably heard that you can’t pick you relatives however you can pick your friends.
There are no perfect families and family members have their disagreements from time to time. However generally they learn how to deal with each others personalities and work as a team. Family members generally pull together when one is hurt or needs assistance. Learning to work as a team within a family is preparation for working together in other groups.
Some people enter public service, whether elected or appointed, with the purpose of making things better, some see it as a job. Some elected officials see themselves as a servant of the people with their boss being those who elected them. Unfortunately too many elected officials see themselves as the boss of the people, which is not how our country was founded. Originally, our elected officials followed George Washington’s lead, served for a time and went back into private life. Unfortunately too many elected officials almost have to die in office to create a vacancy.
Some elected officials become members of Congress and serve in the House or Senate, whether or not they served in another office. Under ideal conditions Members of Congress would have had healthy relationships before being entrusted with so much responsibility and authority. Their prior healthy relationships would have fine tuned their skills to work well with others.
Unfortunately, today some have sought high office for reasons that harm our country. There are many in high office who would not know the truth if they tripped over it because they have lied so often, they become Serial Liars or perfect their Serial Lying.
We must be wary of the Serial Liar — for no reality exists for that sort of fibber and they are rarely aware of the fact that every word flowing from their lips is not true.
You recognize the Serial Liar by the tawdry friends they keep and the dismally dissociative associates they curry.
Serial Liars feed upon the weak and maul the good and exploit the want-to-be-liked. Serial Liars know — on some hidden, internal, level — that the truth doesn’t matter to their sycophants… only telling them what they want to hear matters most. Those who expose Serial Liars and Truthtellers get branded and then eaten by the world of Serial Liars. The Serial Liar’s behavior is an abuse of the trust reposed in them, upon the Republic, and the public at large. Each one of the Serial Liars should be treated as any other abuser, brought to Court, be sent for a psychological exam, then be subject to the same penalties as any other abuser.
A song once said livin’ ain’t easy and lovin’s twice as tough. You can’t pick your family; you do pick the company you keep. If you run across an elected official who: seems overly charming; is more spontaneous and intense than other people; show no signs of feeling shame, guilt or remorse; invents outrageous lies about their experiences; seeks to dominate others and “win” at all costs; seems to be highly intelligent; seems incapable of love; speaks poetically; never apologizes; and is delusional and literally believe that what they say becomes truth, then you’ve probably elected a Sociopath and the next election day can’t come soon enough. Sociopaths live by “I” and “Me” even if they use the word team. You can be a part of the Sociopaths team as long as you don’t disagree with the Sociopaths. Sociopaths are Serial Liars and can charm their way into office. Once discovered a Sociopath will play the victim.
We all feel better when our team wins. The team win is sweet when it truly was a team effort because every shares in glory. Team losses are much more bearable when it truly was a team effort. There is no “I” in Team!
Reverend Paul N Papas II is a Pastoral Counselor with Narrow Path Ministries (MA and AZ) and Founder of the Family Renewal Center (AZ) http://www.NarrowPathMinistries.org and http://www.FamilyRenewalCenterAZ.org