If you don’t know what you are looking for how would you recognize it when you find it?
Through the ice, snow, and cold of the days ahead we have a day coming up that could warm you from the inside out – Valentine’s Day. Some hope cupid will shoot his arrow toward them and someone they have in mind to bring a story book relationship to life. Sadly that fantasy is what ad makers would like you to believe.
Remember, disappointment is cured by revamped expectations.
I like the story about the fellow who went to the pet store in search of a singing parakeet. Seems he was a bachelor and his house was too quiet. The store owner had just the bird for him, so the man bought it.
The next day the bachelor came home from work to a house full of music. He went to the cage to feed the bird and noticed for the first time that the parakeet had only one leg.
He felt cheated that he’d been sold a one-legged bird, so he called and complained.
“What do you want,” the store owner responded, “a bird who can sing or a bird who can dance?”
Good question for times of disappointment.
Sometimes we plead with people to fill that emptiness the Valentine’s Day ads would lead us to believe can only be filled by that special someone that cupid has shot for us.
Sometimes we plead with God to have our own way. Then when God or that special someone doesn’t do what we want, it’s not easy. Never has been. Never will be. But faith is the conviction that God knows more than we do about this life and he will get us through it.
The Valentine’s Day ads are trying to sell a product to make money, God isn’t.
As many may well know you could me more alone in a wrong relationship.
Unfortunately more than a few people feel the emptiness that the Valentine’s Day ads point out.
Rest assured there are people who are single, not in a relationship, and live a fulfilling and satisfying life.
The unfortunate thing about believing the lies that the Valentine’s Day ads portray about what a happy life looks like can be unhealthy for one’s mental health. Valentine’s Day ads can lead you to unrealistic expectations which bring disappointment. Disappointment can lead to sadness, anxiety, depression and worse. The ones who get rich from Valentine’s Day ads, your sadness, anxiety, and depression and worse do not care about you, rather only in the money you can put in their pockets.
Life is full of disappointments, they way you handle them makes a difference.
Successful people have worked through their disappointments and grown from them. I’ll give you examples of two people who worked through, grew and became stronger because of their disappointments; you might recognize their names Russell Wilson and Payton Manning. Both had many disappointments before getting to lead their teams in the Super Bowl this year. Payton Manning was let go by his former team because of his several neck surgeries which could land him in a wheelchair if he got hit the wrong way. Russell Wilson was rejected by many teams because he was too small. Both of them overcame great odds and worked through many disappointments to rise to the top and lead their teams in the Super Bowl.
Someone said life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what is on the inside until you bite into it.
You could say life is like a camera: Focus on what’s important; Capture the good times; Develop from the negatives and if things don’t work out – Take another Shot.
Relationships take work as do marriages. If you are blessed with either take a moment to think what you can do special for them. If you’re single take a moment to think what you can do special for someone you know. Doing something special for someone else will help you recognize what you are really looking for…and you’ll find it.
Reverend Paul N Papas II is a Pastoral Counselor with Narrow Path Ministries (MA and AZ) and Founder of the Family Renewal Center (AZ)
http://www.NarrowPathMinistries.org and http://www.FamilyRenewalCenterAZ.org