Confusion, Cohesion, Communication

By Rev. Paul N. Papas II
July 29, 2014

The one who loves you the most could be pretty frustrated if he could not tell you of his love for you. That same frustration could be experienced by you if you could not tell of your love to someone special.

One day you look out into the roadway and see a toddler running into the street into the path of an oncoming car, the driver does not hear you and the toddler does not understand you.

On your walk you notice a group of ants headed toward a cliff and you don’t speak ant so you can’t warn them.

The above three scenarios show a need for communication.

Communication takes many forms. Verbal, written, symbols, and signals are common forms of communication.

Some people find it difficult for people to express themselves clearly. It could be hard for them to use vocabulary and to structure their thoughts during conversations. Others struggle to understand when people speak to them even when they are using the same language.

Without a recognized language this article would not be possible as I would not be able to communicate my thoughts to you.

If there is a difficulty in reading due to Dyslexia, then it isn’t due to hearing problems. Instead, it’s from trouble processing verbal information. It becomes even harder with abstract thoughts and non-literal language, such as jokes and proverbs.

To the one who has Dyslexia letters appear out of order and/or backwards. With help and effort people can go on and do well in reading, writing, and life in general. Students with Dyslexia have been known to increase three reading grades in a matter of months.

Someone who has a challenge of Dyslexia can also have a self image problem as they often get frustrated with learning. The stress of dealing with schoolwork often makes children with dyslexia lose the motivation to continue and overcome the hurdles they face. This frustration sounds like the first three scenarios I gave.

Without cohesion there would not be a family unit, glass jars would be porous, and books would be a bunch of words on paper.

Life without communication and cohesion would be confusing to say the least. Confusion would lead to frustration and devolve into endless wars. We would not be much better than a bunch of toddlers into the terrible twos.

A bunch of toddlers in their terrible twos is less dangerous than world leaders acting in their terrible twos because they control deadly weapons and Armies.

I heard the difference between men and boys is the size of their toys.

We are not robots and we grew up with the Freedom and encouragement to think and express our ideas. We grew up with idea that we could invent a gadget that everyone would want, such as intermittent windshield wipers.

We all have opinions and ideas. Meaningful cohesive discussions that edify all parties involved are much more fruitful. This only works when all parties to the discussion make a real effort to communicate. It really is okay to agree to disagree without being disagreeable.

Don’t get the wrong idea, this is not a “can’t we all just get along article”.

It seems to me there are a lot people who would rather have someone else’s invention, property or idea rather than trying to do the right thing and earn their own. It would appear there are more driven by greed than anything else than before. Sometimes when they get caught they blame it on someone else, their upbringing, or perhaps a mental illness. Then of course what happens is that mental illness gets a greater stigma and the call comes for more regulations against the mentally ill. Mental Illness was not even a factor, just a convenient scapegoat. In fact the real villain was greed.

It is always better to keep the lines of communications open, sometimes that will require an interpreter, in order to hear or say the “I love you”, change the path of the toddler or car, and perhaps help the ants change direction.

Reverend Paul N. Papas II is a Pastoral Counselor with Narrow Path Ministries (MA and AZ) and Founder of the Family Renewal Center (AZ). and


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