Strings On Your Finger

June 2, 2017

By Rev Paul N. Papas II

May 29, 2017

 

Ever forgotten anything? Ever tied a string on your finger to be reminded of something? If you had multiple things to remember, would you recall which string was for which?

Have you tried journaling? Yes, you say, and it went well for a while, then you got too busy and didn’t have time to write, and write, and write. Well, the great thing about journaling is that you write as you will, jotting down what seems important to you at that time.

Although facts don’t change over time, people’s recollection, perception or perspective of the facts may change.

Over the ages people wrote in words or created graphics about events which were of historic significance to them.

History is important. People who don’t know history are often bound to repeat it.

Doctors need to know about your medical history, and sometimes your family’s medical history, in order to have a better understanding and an idea of what to look for and learn of any adverse reactions to treatments or medications you might experience.   You certainly would not want to be treated for appendicitis if yours had already been removed. You also would not want to be treated for depression when indicators suggest that he should be addressing a brain tumor.

Court hearings normally have either a voice recording or a written transcript of the conversation to keep accurate records. The recordings or written transcript are often referred to when a ruling is being written. The written rulings are recorded in official court records and often times published.  There are mechanisms in place to correct errors.  People rely on the written rulings in settling disputes. There are mechanisms in place to appeal the rulings if one party is not satisfied. Sometimes outcomes change as the result of appeals.

No matter how much some people don’t like a historical event, the event will not change. People’s reaction to the historical event can change.

People are born and that historical event is recorded.

People die and that historical event is recorded.

Many events in the life of that person between their birth and death are memorialized by various records kept by the government or other entities.

We know a lot about Rev Billy Graham and Adolph Hitler because of a large volume of records and recordings which were made and preserved.  There may be a dispute about certain specific events concerning either of these public figures. I would think people would generally think that Rev Billy Graham did a lot of good things for a lot of people. Whereas, I suspect that would not be the consensus about Adolph Hitler who caused the deaths of many innocent people.

Some people seem to have the idea that historical events can be erased. Perhaps the movie “It’s A Wonderful Life”, which airs around Christmas time, is reality to those who think they can erase historical events.

There are some who may not like an outcome of a historical event and try to fight the battles over again. Perhaps they would have more success by inventing a time machine which would allow them to revisit a specific moment to alter events.

Some would like to go back and remove a life changing car accident from history, they can’t. The way you deal with it can be changed.

Some would like to change the results of an election, they can’t. The way you deal with it can be changed.

Some would like to change the historical event of the American Civil War, a war between the slave owning Democrats and the anti-slavery Republicans, they can’t.

Removing the string from your finger, shredding a written record, or tearing down a monument will not change the historical events.

Monuments are reminders of good and bad times. People don’t always have the best memory, which is why we may need a string on our finger, a monument, or a trophy for an accomplishment we achieved. The string, monument, or trophy can be used to start or continue a conversation on how not to repeat the mistakes of the past, how we can do better this time….

 

Reverend Paul N. Papas II is a Pastoral Counselor with Narrow Path Ministries (MA and AZ) and Founder of the Family Renewal Center (AZ) www.narrowpathministries.org and www.familyrenewalcenteraz.org

 


Abuse, Home, Work, Church, a Boiled Frog

May 5, 2017

By Rev Paul N. Papas II

May 2, 2017

 

 

Sometimes you can’t see the forest through the trees. Sometimes you feel like you are knee deep in alligators.

Have you become a boiled frog?

I’m referring, to the proverbial frog that, placed in a pot of cold water that is gradually heated, never realizes the danger it’s in and is boiled alive. The hypothetical boiled frog is a useful metaphor for a very real problem: the difficulty of responding to abusive situations that creep up on you a bit at a time.

Most of us become so comfortable or used to our current situation that we don’t really know how to escape from it? (the heat) Don’t put up with rising temperatures!

Let’s not be a boiled frog!

Are you in a job which doesn’t suit you, your skills, your values, your personality or in abusive situation? Have you become so comfortable or used to your current situation or in a situation in which you don’t know how to escape?

 

According to the Dictionary Abuse is defined as wrongly or improperly using one’s authority. This could mean between a husband and wife, siblings, co-workers, people in your church, boss and employees. There are different types of abuse with a common thread; an abuser’s control over another person, imposing their will upon someone else, to force them to do something against their will or prevent them from activities.

Signs that you’re in an abusive relationship

There are many signs of an abusive relationship. The most telling sign is fear of your partner. If you feel like you have to walk on eggshells around your partner—constantly watching what you say and do in order to avoid a blow-up—chances are your relationship is unhealthy and abusive. Other signs that you may be in an abusive relationship include a partner who belittles you or tries to control you, and imparts on you feelings of self-loathing, helplessness, and desperation.

To determine whether your relationship is abusive, answer the questions at the link below. The more “yes” answers, the more likely it is that you’re in an abusive relationship.

https://helpguide.org/articles/abuse/domestic-violence-and-abuse.htm

There are different types of abuse with a common thread; an abuser’s control over another person, imposing their will upon someone else, to force them to do something against their will or prevent them from activities.

Domestic violence and abuse can happen to anyone, yet the problem is often overlooked, excused, or denied. This is especially true when the abuse is psychological, rather than physical. Noticing and acknowledging the signs of an abusive relationship is the first step to ending it. No one should live in fear of the person they love. If you recognize yourself or someone you know in the following warning signs and descriptions of abuse, reach out. There is help available.

Sexual Assault is one type of abuse. An article I would recommend to keep handy is 10 Things Sexual Assault Victims Want You to Know http://www.christianitytoday.com/women/2017/april/ten-things-sexual-assault-victims-want-you-to-know.html

Unfortunately people have misused words in the Bible to impose their will upon someone else. It is not news, God Hates Abuse. One example is often repeated phrase that God Hates Divorce.

 “God hates divorce!” (Read the rest of the verse…)

Christian wives frequently hear this first part of Malachi 2:16 as though the institution of marriage trumps the lives wrapped up in it. Rarely quoted is the second part of the verse which says:

“along with the one who conceals his violence by outward appearances.”

Christian wives often think they have only two options: endure abuse or face condemnation by God for not obeying the Bible. As a result, guilt, despair, internal conflict and heartache cloak every moment as they cling to survival, trying to please both God and their husband.

The future looks hopeless, and their identity and value obscured. Children grow up as secondary victims of domestic abuse, desensitized to God’s ways and primed to continue the cycle of abuse as adults. Read more at https://godhatesabuse.com/god-hates-abuse I highly recommend reading and keeping the book handy titled God Hates Abuse.

Victims of abuse often experience and exhibit various degrees of PTSD, the same PTSD suffered by combat veterans, police officers, fire fighters, and other first responders. They also experience and exhibit anxiety, stress and distrust issues. Help is available. Just like any a clock which is too tightly wound, the unwinding must be carefully done.

Abusers oftentimes have self-worth issues and feel empowered and mighty when they abuse someone.

Here are some real examples from one family of controlling abuse:

Father beats a third grader because the third grader had a friend come over to the house…the father did not want anyone to know what was said or done in the house. This is a real example of controlling abusive behavior.

A son was called to come to the house to pick up a script for the Mom who was sick and could not get off the couch. The father, her husband, told the Mom to get up and get it yourself. They later divorced. This is a real example of controlling abusive behavior with an escape.

Years later, another son from the same family as above learns he can control the family by withholding medical updates of a hospitalized loved one.

An unrelated example is a woman Mary, not her real name, was looking for bruises on another woman, Jane, not her real name, who had her boyfriend present. Mary asked Jane if that man was her boyfriend, Jane said yes. Mary said she was looking for bruises because in her mind that is how men showed their ‘love’ for women by beating them.

No one deserves to be abused. Help is available for the Abuser, the Abused, and those affected by the abuse, just not all in the same setting.

Do your part to stop abuse today.  Learn what you can do to recognize and prevent abuse.

Abuse in Relationships: Can You See It?

 

 

Reverend Paul N. Papas II is a Pastoral Counselor with Narrow Path Ministries (MA and AZ) and Founder of the Family Renewal Center (AZ)  www.narrowpathministries.org and www.familyrenewalcetneraz.org


 

Related articles and resources

http://www.loveisrespect.org/is-this-abuse/types-of-abuse/

https://stopandpraytv.wordpress.com/2017/05/01/video-the-touch-2005/

https://reclaimourrepublic.wordpress.com/2017/01/10/video-no-weapon-shall-prosper-domestic-abuse-why-they-dont-leave/

https://reclaimourrepublic.wordpress.com/2017/04/27/video-human-trafficker-confesses-to-murdering-400-500-little-girls-banker-told-to-sacrifice-children-104-men-arrested/

https://preacher01704.wordpress.com/video-for-gods-sake-domestic-violence-and-religion/

 

 


Old Fashion Still Good

April 7, 2017

By Rev. Paul N. Papas II

April 3, 2017

 

Every time I think that I have heard it all, there comes another one. Now it appears that people, who are hell-bent on indoctrinating everyone that up is down, and down is up, are upset with the Vice President. Why, because he will not have dinner with a women alone who is not his wife and without his wife being present. Nor will he go to an event that serves booze, if his wife is absent. To the Vice President and every other man who thinks the same way, I say BRAVO!

Ever since God and prayer were kicked out of schools we have witnessed, at an ever increasing rapid rate, the decline of the family. With the decline of the family came a myriad of social, political, and metal health issues.

Call me old fashioned, or politically incorrect, if you’d like. I was taught men should stand up when a woman entered the room and hold the door for women and elders. Today there are those who would attach a negative connotation to these actions. To those I say “it is mind over matter”. I don’t mind, and they don’t matter.

If you choose to stand in quicksand rather than on a rock, don’t be surprised when you’re soon buried under a lot of dirt.

By refusing to have dinner with a woman without his wife being present and not going to an event that serves booze if his wife is absent, a husband communicates his dedication to his wife alone, and avoids any appearance of evil. The husband’s dedication to his wife prevents inappropriate  actions on his part that could lead to the break up of his family. This can also be said for a wife’s dedication to her husband in the same manner.  Family break ups, which lead to a divorce, are only good for making divorce lawyers rich.

Family break ups often lead to some level of short or long term emotional, mental health and trust issues.

Family break ups can be also caused by, or lead to abuse issues.  Abuse issues often lead to some level of short or long term emotional, mental health and trust issues. Abusive relationships, or encounters, affect a lot more than the abuser and the abused. People who have been abused often become abusers.

Abuse can be caused by or lead to involvement with the multi-billion dollar porn industry. Pornography objectifies and dehumanizes men and women. Pornography destroys relationships as it creates a false understanding of interpersonal relationships.

The multi billion dollar pornography industry is tied to the multi billion dollar sex trafficking industry which seeks to satisfy the unrealistic needs created and supported by the pornography industry.

A husband who refuses to dine with a women without his wife present and refuses to attend a function that serves booze without his wife present guards against allowing any temptation to break his wedding vows. The same can be said for a wife who refuses to dine with a man without her husband present or attend a function that serves booze without her husband present. Couples who guard against temptation are less likely to end up in divorce court and all the tragedies of breaking up a family.

Couples who are dedicated to each other will work through issues either by themselves or with the help of another person, as the need may arise.

I applaud those couples who show this type of dedication to each other, gentlemen who hold doors for ladies, stands when a lady enters the room, and helps her with her chair as she is seated.   Call me old fashioned. Old fashioned is still good.

Reverend Paul N. Papas II is a Pastoral Counselor with Narrow Path Ministries (MA and AZ), and Founder of the Family Renewal Center (AZ) www.narrowpathministries.org and www.familyrenewalcenteraz.org


Getting To The Root Of The Problem

March 3, 2017

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By Rev Paul N. Papas II

February 28, 2017

 

Have you ever tried to fix a problem without knowing what the problem is? It’s like dropping your car off at the mechanic and giving him instructions to fix the car. The mechanic could give you a very expensive bill and still never fix the real problem. Unfortunately in life people and governments decide that something needs to be fixed, but never get to the heart of the problem so nothing gets fixed.

Most people would not construct a new home on quicksand, on a termite nest, or with rotted wood. Yet in life that is what many people have built their lives upon without even realizing it.

Governments have built programs upon quicksand, on a termite nest, or with rotted wood and wonder why they fail. Of course there have been several well-known government programs which were built with the idea that they will fail.

Long time readers know I am a student of history. In the 1600’s and 1700’s the usual source of information came from the Pulpit. The British tried to silence the Preachers in order to keep people uninformed as the British knew they could more easily control the population if the people only had the official Crown news. Those Preachers were called the Black Robe Regiment. There are still Preachers today who warn of various dangers. Sadly too many Preachers do not warn people, they prefer to deliver a feel good message.

“Brethren, we came to this country to practice our religious liberties, and if we don’t get involved, we’re going to lose them.” –John Peter Muhlenberg, 1777

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The Black Robe Regiment…..arose from the pulpits across the colonies during the Revolutionary War. The movement had its beginnings with Reverend Peter Muhlenberg in 1776 concluding his Sunday sermon by declaring, “In the language of the Holy Writ, there was a time for all things, a time to preach and a time to pray, but those times have passed away. There is a time to fight, and that time is now coming!” Muhlenberg then removed his black robe revealing a full military uniform. Marching to the rear of his church he declared, “Who among you is with me?” On that day 300 men from his congregation stood up and joined Muhlenberg in the fight for liberty. (1)

Indeed Preachers are called to warn people.

As I witnessed the current events, such as the California dam problem, the violent protesters, and the anti-semitic attacks, and the rise of the money first drug companies I began looking for the root of the problems and real solutions. I don’t have all the answers but I will share some of my research.  Yes, we can start at the battle between good and evil in the Garden and the forbidden fruit. However I was looking for something more current.

If someone or a group goes to the trouble of printing and passing out their plan and you see that plan unfold it would be a good thing to study the plan. The plan being implemented is no longer a theory.  We shall know them by their fruits.

What I found was quite eye opening.

Karl Marx stated with a very small group As a university student, Karl Marx (1818-1883) joined a movement known as the Young Hegelians, who strongly criticized the political and cultural establishments of the day. He became a journalist, and the radical nature of his writings would eventually get him expelled by the governments of Germany, France and Belgium. In 1848, Marx and fellow German thinker Friedrich Engels published “The Communist Manifesto,” which introduced their concept of socialism as a natural result of the conflicts inherent in the capitalist system. Marx later moved to London, where he would live for the rest of his life. In 1867, he published the first volume of “Capital” (Das Kapital), in which he laid out his vision of capitalism and its inevitable tendencies toward self-destruction, and took part in a growing international workers’ movement based on his revolutionary theories (2)

Marx and his followers advocate the destruction of society as we know it with government being the highest authority, their god.

In 1963 at a congressional hearing a former RBI agent who wrote a book called The Naked Communist testified that communists had 45 stated goals to takeover. Many of them have been achieved.  The violent paid protesters are carrying out Marx’s plan http://www.commieblaster.com/news/communist-takeover-plan.html , https://archive.org/details/TheNakedCommunistByWCleonSkousen

For Marx to succeed the family must be destroyed. Women work supporting the government’s mission. Men are removed from the family and feminized. Children belong to the government. Individualization is punished and group think is the norm. Those who don’t fall in line are declared mentally ill and at the minimum are forced to take a variety of medications and under the control of the government doctors. There is no free speech and the Bill of Rights are abolished in practice.

The movie CULTURAL MARXISM: The Corruption of America does a good job of discussing Marx’s plan and how it is being implemented.

 

Is all hope lost, no! This is still a battle of good verse evil. Some years ago I wrote the Introduction to a book titled There Is Still Power in the Blood (3) which shows you how to battle the devil.

Paul Harvey did an excellent broadcast titled If I where the devil

 

There is still time to win this battle now that the root of the problem has been identified. It is now time to work on fixing it. We all need to do our part in saying no to those who are trying to destroy our country.

Next time you see those violent protesters on the news you’ll know the root of the problem.

 

(1)  http://blackroberegiment.ning.com

(2) http://www.history.com/topics/karl-marx

(3) https://stopandpraytv.wordpress.com/2017/02/21/video-there-is-still-power-in-the-blood-if-i-were-the-devil/

 

Reverend Paul N. Papas II is a Pastoral Counselor with Narrow Path Ministries (MA and AZ) and Founder of the Family Renewal Center (AZ) www.narrowpathministries.org and www.familyrenewalcenteraz.org

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http://www.theacru.org/fake-justice-and-the-rise-of-a-new-religion/


Tested By Fire

August 5, 2016

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By Rev Paul N. Papas II
August 2, 2016

You’ve probably heard the phrase “If it doesn’t kill you it will make you stronger.” Some cave under pressure instead of working through it. Tough times help mold you into a stronger person, a long as you keep plugging away.

At one time young men, who could not find their way sometimes, were offered a choice, enlist in the military or go to jail. It worked for some as basic training was a rigorous physical and mental exercise in which they were pushed beyond their known limits. They learned they can actually accomplish new tasks individually and as part of the team. These accomplishments gave them courage, strengthened their character, confidence in themselves, and provided tools to rely upon throughout life.

Unless you have always lived in a bubble, you have experienced tough situations. How you dealt with the tough situations help identify who you are.

Often people recognized as heroes believe others would have done what they did under the circumstances. They revealed who they are. I don’t recall any true heroes acting because it would help them make the cover of Time Magazine.

No matter what your station in life or situation you can be a hero to someone. Sometimes it just takes a small act of kindness to make a big difference in someone’s life.

I recently read an article how a nine year old prevented his newborn brother from being abducted from the hospital. Yes, he was a hero to his family. He just knew the women who picked up his brother was not acting as other nurses did and followed her.

I have witnessed mental health patients do small acts of kindness for other patients in the same locked ward.

I have witnessed some prisoners brighten the day of other prisoners.

Sure, there are enough evil things going on in this world to depress some people. I believe that no matter how bad your circumstances are, someone is worse off than you are.

The Priest who was beheaded at the Alter in his church has been reported to have said “Go away Devil”. His actions inspire others to remain faithful and strong in the face of evil and adversity.

We have many examples of people who faced evil and adversity, some battled depression also. Abraham Lincoln had many family tragedies, battled depression, lost a few elections, and was a Founding member of the new ant-slavery party, and became the first Republican President. A study of President Lincoln’s life will show he was tested by fire many times.

I believe God raises up certain people for certain times to lead, Abraham, Moses, Noah, Gideon, David are a few who come to mind, none of them was perfect. Not everyone would is raised up becomes famous. The attributes they all have in common is they stood strong in the face of evil and adversity as they were tested by fire.

The finest gold is refined by fire and had the dross removed. The evil and adversity we face is a way of having the dross removed from us as we are refined by fire. Just as the finest gold has the dross removed is the most valuable so are people who have the dross removed as they were tested by fire.

Testing by fire is inevitable; we have a say in the final product.

Reverend Paul N. Papas II is a Pastoral Counselor with Narrow Path Ministries (MA and AZ) and Founder of the Family Renewal Center (AZ) http://www.narrowpathminstries.org and http://www.familyrewalcenteraz.org

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Related

https://lorrab.wordpress.com/2016/07/27/soldiers-murdered-trying-to-protect-a-woman-being-attacked/

https://joansanusi.wordpress.com/2016/08/04/we-were-made-for-these-times/


Have We All Gone Mad About Restrooms?

May 6, 2016

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By Rev Paul N. Papas II
May 2, 2016

Yes, the economy is in the toilet and people who mean us harm are at the door. Noisy groups want to blockade whole states, and tape mouths shut over who gets into a restroom.

Let’s be clear. This is not a new offense just dreamt up by someone. This is the latest salvo in a forty year plan to destroy the family (1). To be more precise its roots are found in Genesis 3:15.

To be clear, I stand with the Sheriff in the video who said that if a guy follows my wife or daughter into the restroom, we’re going to make the news.

Men are designed and called to protect women and children (2)

Psalm 82:3 Defend the weak and the fatherless; uphold the cause of the poor and the oppressed.

James 1:27 Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.

The amount of documented cases of assaults and sexual assaults upon women and children is sobering (3). It is troubling that we are opening wide the restroom doors to any pervert who would be able to do their damage while barricading those who would protect them.

Let’s say Jane, who appears to be a full grown adult yet, has the mind of an 8 year old and is suffering with anxiety, depression, and PTSD is in a ladies room stall. In comes Jack with a beard in a dress and for the moment claims to be a women. Jack did not arrive in the ladies room to relieve himself and leave. Jack is looking for easy prey and his next victim. Jack is larger than Jane who innocently suspects nothing of danger while in the stall. Jack opens Jane’s stall door and brutalizes Jane leaving her in a heap curled up on the floor, never to be the same again.

Jack who claims to be a girl says he has a perfect right to be in the Ladies Room because he indentifies as a women. The sex thing…., it is okay… it is just part of his culture and she was there.

The same group claiming that Jack has a RIGHT to be in the Ladies Room also pushed for The Violence Against Women Act (VAWA).

The Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) was the first major law to help government agencies and victim advocates work together to fight domestic violence, sexual assault, and other types of violence against women. It created new punishments for certain crimes and started programs to prevent violence and help victims. Over the years, the law has been expanded to provide more programs and services. (4) also see the factsheet (5).

Is Jack prosecuted pursuant to The Violence Against Women Act? Considering the current climate, it would allow the pervert to walk because he was wearing a dress and his culture permits brutal rape.

Jane on the other hand is revictimized every time she tells of her nightmare in the Ladies Room stall to a Police Officer, Judicial Officer or medical person and probably every time she closes her eyes.

Defend the weak and the fatherless; uphold the cause of the poor and the oppressed have men go into the Men’s Room (it has three letters) and Women go into the Ladies’ Room (it has more than three letters.)

Reverend Paul N. Papas II is a Pastoral Counselor with Narrow Path Ministries (MA and AZ) and Founder of the Family Renewal Center (AZ) http://www.narrowpathministries.org and http://www.familyrenewalcenteraz.org

(1) https://reclaimourrepublic.wordpress.com/2016/05/01/leading-us-down-the-aisle-dems-4-point-plan-to-destroy-the-family/ and https://reclaimourrepublic.wordpress.com/2016/04/24/video-the-homosexual-manifesto-is-just-satire-silly-americans/ and
https://reclaimourrepublic.wordpress.com/2015/08/03/video-homosexuals-aiming-for-your-kids/ and https://reclaimourrepublic.wordpress.com/2016/04/26/video-5-times-transgender-men-abused-women-and-children-in-bathrooms-personal-experiences/

(2) http://parentleadership.com/protect.html

(3) https://reclaimourrepublic.wordpress.com/2016/05/02/sex-crimes-at-target-stores/

(4) https://www.justice.gov/ovw and http://womenshealth.gov/violence-against-women/laws-on-violence-against-women/ https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Violence_Against_Women_Act

(5) https://www.whitehouse.gov/sites/default/files/docs/vawa_factsheet.pdf

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Making The Right Choice Is Not Always Easy

March 4, 2016

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By Rev Paul N. Papas II
March 1, 2016

Not making a decision is a decision. There hundreds if not thousands of decisions to be made everyday, starting with should I ignore the alarm clock?

Good decision-making is a skill that comes easily to some people, not so easily to others. Choices can be confusing. Choices can make you anxious. They can cost you peace of mind, even after you’ve made the decision. Have you ever spent hours in your head trying to “undo” the choice you made?

The skill of good decision-making has become increasingly important in this day and age. So much information is decimated at a rapid rate today by way of the internet and social media that it can add to the confusion.  Good decision making is needed to determine the validity of what is being thrown at us also.  Because we have an abundance of choices, both with the simple things in life and the serious things in life make a choice with a clear mind is difficult enough. Add low blood sugar, illness, or medication to the mix and the decision making process slows or stops which could add frustration. Frustration can bring us into a downward spiral of confusion which can make the decision making process come to a halt.

For those who are considered to be Bipolar, “decision making” is more difficult to say the least. Part of the struggle with making decisions is related to how far you have come with accepting your diagnosis and whether you are “stable or unstable” at the time of making a decision. Those who are not stable will generally have all sorts of struggles with things such as decision making.

When bipolar symptoms flare up you can struggle with either depression or mania and “judgment” is usually quite impaired. Thought processes are generally speeded up when mania is present and slowed down during depressive episodes. When this occurs there is an imbalance and decisions tend to be “all over the place”. Not only is poor judgment experienced but there is a struggle with focusing. Poor focus can lead to impulsive actions. As one can imagine this really impacts the ability to think clearly and make a good decision.

Moods can affect the decision making process also. Good moods can have you doing the correct steps to make good decisions. If you’re on a high or manic thoughts are so fast that in reality you’re really not thinking everything through and decisions could be impulsive.

On the contrary when you in depressive state thoughts are slowed and are generally quite negative. So again the thought process is not at a level of stability thus making poor decisions could be made as you’re not capable of thinking things through as much as you should.

There are times when good counsel of friends or professionals are needed. They can advise, but at some point decisions need to be made.

Decision making skills can be developed with practice. As decision making skills are practiced confidence will build to make more and bigger decisions.

If you are in a position to make decisions for others then you should have already developed the skill of decision making as someone’s life could depend upon it.

Effective leaders have refined their decision making skills almost to a fine art. Effective leaders know how to assemble teams of people who have also refined their decision making skills to accomplish certain goals. Effective leaders don’t assemble ‘yes men’ for an appearance of a team.

In any group there will be a leader. The best leaders will not only have refined decision making skills they will also have learned to bring people together to accomplish goals. The best leaders not only know how to lead, they also know how to follow. It is true, no man is an island.

When you have the opportunity to help select a leader look at what they have accomplished. Take a close look at who they count as their associates.  If they have adult children watch to see the values that were instilled in them. The leader you select should reflect refined decision making skills that best reflect your values.

Decide to make a decision, your life and the lives of others are affected.

Reverend Paul N. Papas II is a Pastoral Counselor with Narrow Path Ministries (MA and AZ) and the Founder of the Family Renewal Center (AZ) www.narrowpathministries.org and www.familyrenewalcenteraz.org


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