Caring from Conception

November 6, 2015

God Greater Than Circumstance kristiann1
By Rev Paul N. Papas II
November 3, 2015

I know there is a lot of debate as to when Life begins. We are all fitfully and wonderfully made. God knew us before we were in the womb as our spirit comes from him to fellowship with Him. You might guess from that opening that I am not pro choice on that issue. There is a choice that God is in favor of and leaves up to us all and that is as to whether we will follow Him or not.

Life never has been the life of Riley or a bowl of cherries. Pick anytime in history and you will see the location might be different however life was not easy.

Farmers did not always have the large tractors, combines, other tools of today. They had their hands, their backs, and long days working in the fields for six days. Sundays were set aside for the worship of the one who gave them their life and crops.

The neighbors who were farmers, cattlemen, and shop keepers worked together and helped each other in time of need. There were no government programs waiting for them when they hit the shores of this new world and none in the old world from which they came. The first meeting houses were the churches. The locals came together to govern themselves. They fought the fires together and had barn raising events to build or rebuild helping their neighbor.

When our country expanded westward it took hardy souls to cross the vast open lands with few possessions in a covered wagon. Those hardy souls traveled in groups called wagon trains in order that they could help and receive help when needed.

We were designed to fellowship and part of the fellowship is helping each other.

We were designed to form and live in family units, a Dad, a Mom and children. The family unit is under attack however that is a subject for another time.

This time I want to focus on when Dad and Mom are longer in the picture, such as when they both have died and the children survive. Upon the parents death the children are left behind with the pain and trauma of the loss and rudderless. A ship without a rudder on the open seas is in grave danger.

We are called to care of widows and orphans. When that was written widows were defined as women over 60 who did not have children. At that time and often times today children take care of elderly parents. It was thought that younger widows could remarry.

That still leaves orphans.

Children left without parents or family members to take them in are on their on and vulnerable to perverts and slave masters who exploit them. Orphans who end up living on the streets may do anything to eat or obtain acceptance. Too many children are bought and sold by perverts and sex traffickers, sometimes multiple times a day.

Children with families are much more likely to have their medical and mental health issues taken care of. Orphans living on the street on the other hand could spread or die from various illnesses without the care they would receive through their family. Orphans living on the street could experience psychotic episodes as a result of untreated mental illnesses.

There are children who for various reasons end up in Foster Care. Children who are in Foster Care have more opportunities in life if the Foster Parents have a heart for the Foster Children. Sadly, there are reports of various abuses in the Foster Care program as well.

Unfortunately, some parents have been known to abuse their own children. In that case both the parents and the children need help with the issues resulting from that abuse.

I have notice that there are many adoption agencies, many of them private, who will endeavor to match eligible families with children waiting to be adopted. Some people have traveled to other countries to adopt children.

Where do those children come from?

With the economy getting worse we’ll see families getting into tougher straights than before. In the Great Depression some families offered to sell some of their children so the rest could survive. We know some people today ‘rent’ their children to pay for drug debts.

There are many successful people who had some pretty rough lives growing up. Some of those successful people who had rough lives were adopted into loving families. Yes, they did well despite circumstance beyond their control. Here is one example. There is the only one Eagle Scout to ascend to the Presidency. He is also the only future US President to tackle a future Heisman Trophy winner when he brought down running back Jay Berwanger. I am writing about the 38th US President, Gerald R. Ford.

What I don’t see many of is Orphanages who will take in children and provide them with their physical, medical, and spiritual needs. I have found Christian organizations that will provide support for adoptive families and Orphanages. I think is time that churches answer the call and open and operate Orphanages.

Reverend Paul N. Papas II is a Pastoral Counselor with Narrow Path Ministries (MA and AZ) and Founder of the Family Renewal Center (AZ) and

Other Consequences of Ruling

July 3, 2015

moral compass
June 30, 2015
By Rev Paul N. Papas II

Sometimes we don’t realize all of the consequences of our actions before we embark on a trail.

An experienced hiker or camper probably would not forget his map, compass, and proper footwear. Although an experienced hiker or camper should be able to navigate day or night without a compass, he may navigate as precisely as he would with a compass.

An experienced camper should be able to find or construct a shelter from his surroundings.

Ignoring, loosing or throwing away your moral compass can be harmful in more ways than one. There could be physical, psychological, or spiritual harm done to yourself or those around you when you ignore, lose, or throw away your moral compass. Often times it is hurt people who ignore, lose, or throw away their moral compass to try to dull the pain of the hurts. People who suffer the pain of being hurt often times hurt others.

We may never know the exact reasons why the five Supreme Court justices thought they could redefine marriage. They also may not have thought about all the consequences of their actions. One such consequence of their actions is a weakened U.S. military.

Our military is already stretched thin across the globe. It does not look as though the situation is going to improve in the near future.

As a Veteran I can tell you that from Boot Camp teamwork is stressed, as is leadership. Some of our finest Military leaders produced the most results because they were not afraid to lead the charge, they did not sit in an office dictating the next move. The Military leaders who produced the most results were recognized as part of the team trying to accomplish a mission.

The most effective teams in the military trust each member with their lives. If they don’t trust each other and they have to keep one eye on their team member and the other eye on the enemy their life expectancy is very short.

The consequences of failing to follow the Chain of Command can be seen in military and in civilian life. Look how many civilian Whistleblowers are retaliated against for warning the public of danger that has been hushed up. The situation in the military could prove to be deadly or career ending for failing to follow the Chain of Command.

One consequence of the redefinition of marriage by the Supreme Court is further rise in and greater suppression of rapes and sexual assaults in the military upon men and women.

The normal process in the Military to report a Rape or Sexual Assault is to report it up the Chain of Command. Unfortunately that system usually produces recriminations upon the victims, little or no reporting beyond the unit, and improper handling of the investigation. Congress has failed to pass a bill that would permit military personal to report a Rape or Sexual Assault to a civilian authority.

The redefinition of marriage could see a rise in rapes and sexual assaults upon men and women as we did after don’t ask don’t tell was implemented. The number of reports may well go down so as not to be labeled as homophobic or some such nonsense.

Rapes and Sexual Assaults in the military could lead to distrust among team members. The distrust of fellow team members weakens the team and weakens the military. The distrust of fellow team members could prove deadly in combat and turn a winnable situation into a disastrous defeat for the battle and the nation.

Those who commit rape or sexual assaults in the military have a greater chance of not being brought to justice as a result of the redefinition of marriage and perpetrating the same crimes upon the civilian population.

The cost upon the victims of rape and sexual assaults are not always considered either. Victims of rape and sexual assaults have more and long lasting mental health issues and higher rates of suicide than those who have not been raped or sexually assaulted. There is help available for victims.

Perpetrators don’t usually seek help, however is available.

I believe those five who thought they were redefining marriage never considered they were weakening our military.

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Reverend Paul N. Papas II is a Pastoral Counselor with Narrow Path Ministries (MA and AZ) and Founder of the Family Renewal Center (AZ) and


Ward And June Cleaver Criminalized

June 5, 2015

the cleavers
June 2, 2015 By Rev Paul N. Papas II

Ward and June Cleaver were characters in the American television sitcom Leave It to Beaver. Ward and his wife, June, are often invoked as archetypal suburban parents of the baby-boomer 1950s. The couple is the parents of Wally, a thirteen-year-old in the eighth grade, and seven-year-old (“almost eight”) second-grader Theodore, nicknamed “The Beaver”.

A typical episode from Leave It to Beaver follows a misadventure committed by one or both of the boys, and ends with the culprits receiving a moral lesson from their father and a hot meal from their mother.

Parents Ward and June, and older brother Wally, try to keep Theodore (‘the Beaver’) out of trouble. However, Beaver continued to end up in one kind of jam or another. These situations are easily resolved to the satisfaction of all involved.

Instigator and troublemaker Eddie Haskell is an older kid who always manages to avoid being caught. The following snippet provides a glimpse of Eddie’s two edged tongue.

Eddie Haskell: Wally, if your dumb brother tags along, I’m gonna – oh, good afternoon, Mrs. Cleaver. I was just telling Wallace how pleasant it would be for Theodore to accompany us to the movies.

The Beaver’s friend Larry got into a little bit of a problem. Beaver could have been helpful in exhorting Larry that he was on the wrong path. Beaver chose to remain silent.

Ward Cleaver: Beaver, you know what Larry was doing was wrong. You could have stopped him.

Theodore “Beaver” Cleaver: Gee, Dad, I have enough trouble keeping myself good without keeping all the other kids good.

Yes, this was a popular TV show in the 1950s; however it represents the values of the times. Eisenhower was President. Prayer or Bible readings started the school days. Five then Nineteen inch Black and White TV went off the air for the night. If a bra was shown in an advertisement, it was on a mannequin. Telephone line wires were relied upon to set up coast to coast reports.

Today there isn’t much you can’t see on the wall size flat screen TVs. With instant Satellite coverage world wide you can see inside each hair follicle of each newsmaker.

You may see a bra on today’s TV shows in a string of clothes on the floor leading to the next sex scene in the bedroom.

The values today have changed, morals have not. Too many today do not believe there are any absolutes. Consequently too many have a sliding scale of right and wrong. Those who have sliding scale of right and wrong built their morals on quicksand instead of upon a Solid Rock.

This sliding scale of right and wrong has flipped our society on its head. Those with a sliding scale of right and wrong are bullying, demeaning, and trying to silence those who have a rock solid absolute understanding of right and wrong.

Traditional Ward and June Cleaver families are called old fashion, sexist, homophobic, racists, and even hateful. Traditional Ward and June Cleavers are having their businesses ruined by those who have sliding scale of right and wrong as their foundation. There have been too many recent news stories of bakers, photographers, florists, to name a few who have faced persecution for their faith.

Many who warn those living in a house built on quicksand are brought to court, jailed or confined in a Mental Health facility. A recent news report of a decorated Marine comes to mind. The Marine Combat Veteran had his life forever changed by those with a sliding scale of right and wrong for making comments on Facebook. He was forcibly arrested, without a warrant and committed to a Mental Health facility because of his comments. The Supreme Court recently refused to hear his case against the Police Department. I have published previous articles about the weaponizing mental health to silence opposition.

Traditional Ward and June Cleavers are not going to change their values to accommodate those with a sliding scale of right and wrong, they are certain in what they believe and in whom they believe. There are not enough chains, bars or drugs that will deter traditional Ward and June Cleavers. They may be criminalized and they may be what is needed to turn this society around.

The next quote from Beaver reflects what is missing in many people today: Theodore “Beaver” Cleaver: “You know something, Wally? I’d rather do nothin’ with you than somethin’ with anybody else.”

It is true you can prevent a forest fire; it is also true that you can prevent a conflagration committed by those with sliding scale of right and wrong. The criminalization of traditional Ward and June Cleavers can be stopped by you.

Reverend Paul N. Papas II is a Pastoral Counselor with Narrow Path Ministries (MA and AZ) and Founder of the Family Renewal Center (AZ) and


Giving or Receiving Which is Better?

December 5, 2014

By Rev Paul N. Papas II
December 2, 2014

It is more blessed to give than to receive has often been repeated.

It is complicated is also often heard when people don’t want to give all the details.

Many Americans have traditionally spent way beyond their limits in trying to purchase enough gifts, sometimes hoping to gain favor with the gift receiver. It is well known that you can’t buy true friendship or love, but people still try. If you could buy favor with someone understand that favor could go elsewhere to someone with a bigger bank account. In affect you really would only be renting favor until a higher bidder arrived.

Truly long lasting human mutual relationships are built over time.

No one has been successful in coercing someone into a real truly long lasting human mutual relationship.

This season is an opportunity for each one of us to renew or establish real truly long lasting human mutual relationships.

There are enough events going on around the world to be concerned about which real relationships can discuss without being disagreeable.

Real relationships, such as a married couple, work together toward common goals.

World-class athletes know that it takes focus, effort, and sacrifice to achieve any goal that is truly worthwhile. This is true for solo competition as well as team sports. Team sports, however, also require cooperation and communication. Team members not only work hard together but also communicate with one another to provide information, feedback, and especially encouragement.

You and your spouse are a team, and you will have to cooperate and communicate with each other as you strive for victory. You’ll need to talk things over as you choose which goals to pursue and decide how you will achieve them. You’ll need to keep each other informed as you assume your individual roles and execute your unique assignments. You’ll need to compare notes as you evaluate your progress. And you’ll need to encourage one another as you work hard, reminding each other to keep your eyes on the prize and never give up.

Encouragement is such an important part of communication between teammates because it delivers hope and renews energy, inspiring fresh enthusiasm, dedication, and commitment. Words of encouragement can literally make a difference between failure and success.

With a little encouragement from each other, and a little help from the Lord, you’ll soon be rejoicing together that you’ve accomplished your goals, and your communication will take the tone of celebration.

Encourage one another daily, as long it is today.

The above teamwork and cooperation applies to friendships, co-workers, and those serving in the military, in perhaps different degrees, in accomplishing common goals.

If friends, teammates, co-workers, and spouses spent their time encouraging each other great things can be accomplished and mighty obstacles can be overcome.

If friends, teammates, co-workers, and spouses spent their time encouraging each other there would be fewer trips to the doctor to address a variety of issues.

If friends, teammates, co-workers, and spouses spent their time encouraging each other there would be fewer prescriptions purchased to combat depression, anxiety, and sleep disorders.

Which is better giving or receiving? The gift of encouragement you give will pay enormous dividends to you, to people around you and people around the one you encouraged. The gift of encouragement is one gift that can be regifted with pleasure, one you just might like to receive.

Encourage one another daily, as long it is today.

Reverend Paul N. Papas II is a Pastoral Counselor with Narrow Path Ministries (MA and AZ) and Founder of the Family Renewal Center (AZ) and

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Running on Low Octane

September 5, 2014

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By Rev Paul N. Papas II
1 September 2014

Just like any finely tuned engine your body works best on high octane, healthy nutritional foods.

Ever hear the phrase “we have done so much with so little for so long, the impossible just takes a little longer”. When your body is fed with low octane junk food is does not function properly because it does not have what it requires to function at full capacity. Your car won’t run without gas and it runs poorly on low octane fuel. Eating low octane unhealthy food is asking your body to do much with so little.

You can find a quick sugar high, high fat or empty calorie meal at a fast food outlet. A few studies have shown a link between processed, fried and sugar-filled food and the increase of chances of depression and anxiety in women.

The Department of Defense has begun a trial where they give nutrient-rich foods to veterans in an attempt to reduce the incidence of suicides of former soldiers. Veterans have been harmed by a lack of care by the VA and have experienced a large number of suicides as of late.

Eating more fruits, veggies, olive oil, raw nuts, oily fish and whole grains and less of red meat, dairy and processed foods made the research subjects half as likely to develop depression as those eating unhealthy foods. Education and economic status is not important as diet; basically garbage in, garbage out.

Try running corrupted files on your computer and see where that gets you.

It has been known for some time that taking SSRIs has a side effect of suicidal behavior. Just read the warning label. SSRIs are prescribed as antidepressants. A high percentage of those who have committed mass shootings have been prescribed SSRIs for their depression. I have written about the dangers of SSRIs before.

I would think that if you were to receive relief from depression by eating well and exercising, you’d be better off than ingesting chemicals that could cause you more harm than good; again garbage in, garbage out.

There are a number of foods and spices that have been proven to help people with various ailments. Medical Research has done some marvelous work and has made some fantastic discoveries. Before medical doctors, people ate or used certain natural foods to help in their healing. Some of the more common of these ‘healing’ foods are Olive Oil, Garlic, Asparagus, Honey, Cinnamon, and Watermelon. You can check online for websites such as to do your own research.

You may have heard about the recent admission by a CDC Doctor that he published false information denying the link of certain vaccines to autism. There have been people warning about the link to certain vaccines and autism for sometime now. It is a crying shame that so many children have autism and it is even worse if, for many of them, it was totally preventable. I have read that the dangerous vaccines can be made safe and would like to see that happen very shortly; again garbage in, garbage out. I also read some articles that say a body cleansing can reverse the affects of autism.

There are still incidents of untrained police officers improperly confronting people exhibiting a Mental Illness. There is a program that has been successfully duplicated elsewhere which I would recommend for every city for police to deal with people exhibiting a Mental Illness.

Mental Illness is increasingly being used as a weapon against people with different views; see my previous two articles on the subject.

Sadness, Depression, and feeling blue are natural emotions and are often tied to events in our lives. Often a high octane, healthy diet, exercise, and a listening ear will help tremendously. You could be that listening ear…..

Reverend Paul N. Papas II is a Pastoral Counselor with Narrow Path Ministries (MA and AZ) and Founder of the Family Renewal Center (AZ) and

Shall We Keep It?

July 4, 2014

Fourth Of July Flag
By Rev. Paul N. Papas II
June 30, 2014

As the delegates left the building, a Mrs. Powel of Philadelphia asked Benjamin Franklin, “Well, Doctor, what have we got?”

With no hesitation, Franklin replied, “A republic, if you can keep it.” Not a democracy, not a democratic republic. But “a republic, if you can keep it.”

The following two examples which highlight the difference between a democracy and a republic.

A lynch mob is democracy in action, while if you believe someone is innocent until proven guilty, and they deserve their day in court and that a jury of their peers should decide their fate, then you believe in a nation of laws, not just the whims of a mob.

Democracy is five wolves and a sheep voting on what to have for lunch. If you were the sheep, which would you rather live in—a republic or a democracy?

As America stands at the crossroads of history, there is a pressing need for us to look back and rediscover the vision of those who laid the groundwork and built the foundation that made our nation great. The Founders’ found the Scriptures as the basis for our original founding documents and inspired them in the fight for independence. The sacrifices they made were because of their Biblically-based beliefs and established America as a Christian nation.

THESE are the times that try men’s souls. The summer soldier and the sunshine patriot will, in this crisis, shrink from the service of their country; but he that stands by it now, deserves the love and thanks of man and woman. Tyranny, like hell, is not easily conquered; yet we have this consolation with us, that the harder the conflict, the more glorious the triumph. What we obtain too cheap, we esteem too lightly: it is dearness only that gives every thing its value. Heaven knows how to put a proper price upon its goods; and it would be strange indeed if so celestial an article as FREEDOM should not be highly rated. (Dec 23, 1776, The Crises by Thomas Paine).

In a government constituted like ours, no purpose can be carried into permanent execution unless “the people love to have it so [Jerem. 5:31].” Every citizen has his weight; and if he throw that weight into the scale of righteousness; if by his example, his advice, and his suffrage, he exclusively countenance men and measures propitious to the common weal, he may do much to lengthen the public tranquility. (John Foster, A.M. Minister of Brighton, Massachusetts June 5, 1809 in A Sermon Preached Before The Ancient And Honorable Artillery Company)

Suppose a nation in some distant region should take the Bible for their only law book and every member should regulate his conduct by the precepts there exhibited. . . . What a Eutopia – what a Paradise would this region be! (John Adams, Works, Vol. II, pp. 6-7, diary entry for February 22, 1756.)

If you have been following the news you would be led to believe that we are a secular nation and that God has no place in our lives, our community, or our politics.

I recently witnessed newly graduated high school young adults who didn’t know much about our Founding Fathers, our history, didn’t know the words to the Pledge of Allegiance to Our Flag or to place their hand over their heart when reciting it. Our future leaders are missing the richness and meaning of our history. How can they be expected to carry on our Republic when we’re gone if they don’t have an appreciation for it or don’t know we have one?

Sadly they may someday be called upon to take up arms and fight in a war without having an understanding what they are fighting for. Their enemy could be today’s terrorists. Today’s terrorists care deeply about their cause which makes them highly motivated to kill and therefore extremely dangerous. The uncommitted combat soldiers are easy prey for the committed terrorist.

The uncommitted combat soldier will incur more injuries than a committed opponent. Any combat soldier is susceptible to physical, emotional, and psychological injuries, such as PTSD. Recovery is more difficult when the injured veteran does not know what he was fighting for or believe in the cause that placed them in harms way.

If the proper end of politicks be to procure the happiness of nations, that end is not to be attained but by adhering to the rules of morality: for every act of injustice leads to misfortune, were it only from its being accompanied with certain infamy [Millot. Vol. I. P. 157-158. Salem Edit. 1796.].”

As we celebrate this Fourth of July weekend: let’s focus on the Liberty and Freedom we gained by our independence, what we’ve lost over the years; start to instill in at least one of our future leaders an appreciation of our Republic; and pray for our Republic and its current and future leaders.

Reverend Paul N. Papas II is a Pastoral Counselor with Narrow Path Ministries (MA and AZ) and Founder of the Family Renewal Center (AZ) and

Help With Effects From All This Rain

April 9, 2010

Tab Article
By Rev. Paul N. Papas II
30 March 10

Help With Effects From All This Rain

I can not remember having this much rain in one year. I recall being dumped upon with heavy snow storms almost every weekend several years ago. Being activated as a National Guard member in the Blizzard of ’78 gave me an education as to how people can pull together and heal. Later as a Katrina volunteer my memories of what large amounts of water did to Mississippi are still fresh and the rebuilding there has not been completed.

When I was young there was a very large hurricane that visited eastern MA. We were on the second floor watching store signs go flying by our window from towns thirty miles away. The next morning I walked down to the town center to see the Police Department patrolling the area in a canoe.

Like they say if you don’t like the weather in New England…wait a minute.

What all these real life examples have in common are: weather related disasters; people being hurt or displaced, and property being damaged.

We can put the snow aside so we can get around.

Sometimes, however, the weight of the snow causes roofs to collapse.

Large amounts of water cause other problems. Seeing a painted line on a building 40 or more feet from the ground is one thing until you’re told that the line represents where the ocean reached its highest point. Seeing houses driven into other houses two streets over was sobering. All that was left of US Senator’s home was some clothes in a tree.

Large amounts of water, fast moving or not can be dangerous and the landscape can be altered. This could come from overflowing rivers and streams, broken dams or the ocean.

Buildings and vehicles can be repaired or replaced. Physical structures can be weakened as can the ground upon which they stand. A simple check to see if the windows and doors still operate smoothly could give you clues the building remains in good stead. If possible try keeping large pools of water away from your foundation. Try to keep your furnace and electrical boxes dry to prevent fires.

One often overlooked problem with any area that is exposed to a lot of moisture is mold. Mold can be harmful to people and pets. You might see it growing on the outside of a house or it could be hidden inside walls. The effects mold has on people can often be misdiagnosed to be many things including a medical condition of mental illness. The effect mold has on people is treatable. Mold can be effectively dealt with on properties, as I witnessed in Mississippi after Katrina.

Please exercise caution on bridges that have fast moving high water and don’t try to drive through flooded roadways. There could be a large sinkhole in that puddle.

In times like these people need to take care of themselves as well as those around them. Yes proper footwear will keep your feet dry and raincoats and hats keep your body dry, but keeping your mental health is very important.

People need to feel safe and secure even it times when everything they count on is washed away, or lost due to fire.

People need be assured that they are loved and cared for and that mean something to someone else. You can be the one to provide that assurance that together you’ll get through this.

Children and adults alike need to know they are secure within their own families.

Chaos can result from any disaster. Pulling together and keeping structure enhances strength and stamina in the face of danger.

People need current, accurate and practical information, reducing anxiety. It reassures, guides, strengthens, supports, and encourages people in all walks of life.

Assisting others by helping a neighbor, checking on the elderly, reading a book to a frightened child will help you stay steady while being part of the solution.

Courage is not the absence of fear; it is helping in spite of your fear. The courage you show will encourage others to pull together and help where needed. Let us all have the courage to face turmoil and dangers ahead, tempered with common sense.
This large volume of rain could turn out to be large natural disaster with large property losses, but you can help keep the loss of lives to a minimum. You can also help others to recover both physically and mentally.

Rev. Paul N. Papas II is a Pastoral Counselor with Narrow Path Ministries (MA and AZ) and Founder of the Family Renewal Center. and

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