Abuse, Home, Work, Church, a Boiled Frog

May 5, 2017

By Rev Paul N. Papas II

May 2, 2017

 

 

Sometimes you can’t see the forest through the trees. Sometimes you feel like you are knee deep in alligators.

Have you become a boiled frog?

I’m referring, to the proverbial frog that, placed in a pot of cold water that is gradually heated, never realizes the danger it’s in and is boiled alive. The hypothetical boiled frog is a useful metaphor for a very real problem: the difficulty of responding to abusive situations that creep up on you a bit at a time.

Most of us become so comfortable or used to our current situation that we don’t really know how to escape from it? (the heat) Don’t put up with rising temperatures!

Let’s not be a boiled frog!

Are you in a job which doesn’t suit you, your skills, your values, your personality or in abusive situation? Have you become so comfortable or used to your current situation or in a situation in which you don’t know how to escape?

 

According to the Dictionary Abuse is defined as wrongly or improperly using one’s authority. This could mean between a husband and wife, siblings, co-workers, people in your church, boss and employees. There are different types of abuse with a common thread; an abuser’s control over another person, imposing their will upon someone else, to force them to do something against their will or prevent them from activities.

Signs that you’re in an abusive relationship

There are many signs of an abusive relationship. The most telling sign is fear of your partner. If you feel like you have to walk on eggshells around your partner—constantly watching what you say and do in order to avoid a blow-up—chances are your relationship is unhealthy and abusive. Other signs that you may be in an abusive relationship include a partner who belittles you or tries to control you, and imparts on you feelings of self-loathing, helplessness, and desperation.

To determine whether your relationship is abusive, answer the questions at the link below. The more “yes” answers, the more likely it is that you’re in an abusive relationship.

https://helpguide.org/articles/abuse/domestic-violence-and-abuse.htm

There are different types of abuse with a common thread; an abuser’s control over another person, imposing their will upon someone else, to force them to do something against their will or prevent them from activities.

Domestic violence and abuse can happen to anyone, yet the problem is often overlooked, excused, or denied. This is especially true when the abuse is psychological, rather than physical. Noticing and acknowledging the signs of an abusive relationship is the first step to ending it. No one should live in fear of the person they love. If you recognize yourself or someone you know in the following warning signs and descriptions of abuse, reach out. There is help available.

Sexual Assault is one type of abuse. An article I would recommend to keep handy is 10 Things Sexual Assault Victims Want You to Know http://www.christianitytoday.com/women/2017/april/ten-things-sexual-assault-victims-want-you-to-know.html

Unfortunately people have misused words in the Bible to impose their will upon someone else. It is not news, God Hates Abuse. One example is often repeated phrase that God Hates Divorce.

 “God hates divorce!” (Read the rest of the verse…)

Christian wives frequently hear this first part of Malachi 2:16 as though the institution of marriage trumps the lives wrapped up in it. Rarely quoted is the second part of the verse which says:

“along with the one who conceals his violence by outward appearances.”

Christian wives often think they have only two options: endure abuse or face condemnation by God for not obeying the Bible. As a result, guilt, despair, internal conflict and heartache cloak every moment as they cling to survival, trying to please both God and their husband.

The future looks hopeless, and their identity and value obscured. Children grow up as secondary victims of domestic abuse, desensitized to God’s ways and primed to continue the cycle of abuse as adults. Read more at https://godhatesabuse.com/god-hates-abuse I highly recommend reading and keeping the book handy titled God Hates Abuse.

Victims of abuse often experience and exhibit various degrees of PTSD, the same PTSD suffered by combat veterans, police officers, fire fighters, and other first responders. They also experience and exhibit anxiety, stress and distrust issues. Help is available. Just like any a clock which is too tightly wound, the unwinding must be carefully done.

Abusers oftentimes have self-worth issues and feel empowered and mighty when they abuse someone.

Here are some real examples from one family of controlling abuse:

Father beats a third grader because the third grader had a friend come over to the house…the father did not want anyone to know what was said or done in the house. This is a real example of controlling abusive behavior.

A son was called to come to the house to pick up a script for the Mom who was sick and could not get off the couch. The father, her husband, told the Mom to get up and get it yourself. They later divorced. This is a real example of controlling abusive behavior with an escape.

Years later, another son from the same family as above learns he can control the family by withholding medical updates of a hospitalized loved one.

An unrelated example is a woman Mary, not her real name, was looking for bruises on another woman, Jane, not her real name, who had her boyfriend present. Mary asked Jane if that man was her boyfriend, Jane said yes. Mary said she was looking for bruises because in her mind that is how men showed their ‘love’ for women by beating them.

No one deserves to be abused. Help is available for the Abuser, the Abused, and those affected by the abuse, just not all in the same setting.

Do your part to stop abuse today.  Learn what you can do to recognize and prevent abuse.

Abuse in Relationships: Can You See It?

 

 

Reverend Paul N. Papas II is a Pastoral Counselor with Narrow Path Ministries (MA and AZ) and Founder of the Family Renewal Center (AZ)  www.narrowpathministries.org and www.familyrenewalcetneraz.org


 

Related articles and resources

http://www.loveisrespect.org/is-this-abuse/types-of-abuse/

https://stopandpraytv.wordpress.com/2017/05/01/video-the-touch-2005/

https://reclaimourrepublic.wordpress.com/2017/01/10/video-no-weapon-shall-prosper-domestic-abuse-why-they-dont-leave/

https://reclaimourrepublic.wordpress.com/2017/04/27/video-human-trafficker-confesses-to-murdering-400-500-little-girls-banker-told-to-sacrifice-children-104-men-arrested/

https://preacher01704.wordpress.com/video-for-gods-sake-domestic-violence-and-religion/

 

 


Getting To The Root Of The Problem

March 3, 2017

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By Rev Paul N. Papas II

February 28, 2017

 

Have you ever tried to fix a problem without knowing what the problem is? It’s like dropping your car off at the mechanic and giving him instructions to fix the car. The mechanic could give you a very expensive bill and still never fix the real problem. Unfortunately in life people and governments decide that something needs to be fixed, but never get to the heart of the problem so nothing gets fixed.

Most people would not construct a new home on quicksand, on a termite nest, or with rotted wood. Yet in life that is what many people have built their lives upon without even realizing it.

Governments have built programs upon quicksand, on a termite nest, or with rotted wood and wonder why they fail. Of course there have been several well-known government programs which were built with the idea that they will fail.

Long time readers know I am a student of history. In the 1600’s and 1700’s the usual source of information came from the Pulpit. The British tried to silence the Preachers in order to keep people uninformed as the British knew they could more easily control the population if the people only had the official Crown news. Those Preachers were called the Black Robe Regiment. There are still Preachers today who warn of various dangers. Sadly too many Preachers do not warn people, they prefer to deliver a feel good message.

“Brethren, we came to this country to practice our religious liberties, and if we don’t get involved, we’re going to lose them.” –John Peter Muhlenberg, 1777

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The Black Robe Regiment…..arose from the pulpits across the colonies during the Revolutionary War. The movement had its beginnings with Reverend Peter Muhlenberg in 1776 concluding his Sunday sermon by declaring, “In the language of the Holy Writ, there was a time for all things, a time to preach and a time to pray, but those times have passed away. There is a time to fight, and that time is now coming!” Muhlenberg then removed his black robe revealing a full military uniform. Marching to the rear of his church he declared, “Who among you is with me?” On that day 300 men from his congregation stood up and joined Muhlenberg in the fight for liberty. (1)

Indeed Preachers are called to warn people.

As I witnessed the current events, such as the California dam problem, the violent protesters, and the anti-semitic attacks, and the rise of the money first drug companies I began looking for the root of the problems and real solutions. I don’t have all the answers but I will share some of my research.  Yes, we can start at the battle between good and evil in the Garden and the forbidden fruit. However I was looking for something more current.

If someone or a group goes to the trouble of printing and passing out their plan and you see that plan unfold it would be a good thing to study the plan. The plan being implemented is no longer a theory.  We shall know them by their fruits.

What I found was quite eye opening.

Karl Marx stated with a very small group As a university student, Karl Marx (1818-1883) joined a movement known as the Young Hegelians, who strongly criticized the political and cultural establishments of the day. He became a journalist, and the radical nature of his writings would eventually get him expelled by the governments of Germany, France and Belgium. In 1848, Marx and fellow German thinker Friedrich Engels published “The Communist Manifesto,” which introduced their concept of socialism as a natural result of the conflicts inherent in the capitalist system. Marx later moved to London, where he would live for the rest of his life. In 1867, he published the first volume of “Capital” (Das Kapital), in which he laid out his vision of capitalism and its inevitable tendencies toward self-destruction, and took part in a growing international workers’ movement based on his revolutionary theories (2)

Marx and his followers advocate the destruction of society as we know it with government being the highest authority, their god.

In 1963 at a congressional hearing a former RBI agent who wrote a book called The Naked Communist testified that communists had 45 stated goals to takeover. Many of them have been achieved.  The violent paid protesters are carrying out Marx’s plan http://www.commieblaster.com/news/communist-takeover-plan.html , https://archive.org/details/TheNakedCommunistByWCleonSkousen

For Marx to succeed the family must be destroyed. Women work supporting the government’s mission. Men are removed from the family and feminized. Children belong to the government. Individualization is punished and group think is the norm. Those who don’t fall in line are declared mentally ill and at the minimum are forced to take a variety of medications and under the control of the government doctors. There is no free speech and the Bill of Rights are abolished in practice.

The movie CULTURAL MARXISM: The Corruption of America does a good job of discussing Marx’s plan and how it is being implemented.

 

Is all hope lost, no! This is still a battle of good verse evil. Some years ago I wrote the Introduction to a book titled There Is Still Power in the Blood (3) which shows you how to battle the devil.

Paul Harvey did an excellent broadcast titled If I where the devil

 

There is still time to win this battle now that the root of the problem has been identified. It is now time to work on fixing it. We all need to do our part in saying no to those who are trying to destroy our country.

Next time you see those violent protesters on the news you’ll know the root of the problem.

 

(1)  http://blackroberegiment.ning.com

(2) http://www.history.com/topics/karl-marx

(3) https://stopandpraytv.wordpress.com/2017/02/21/video-there-is-still-power-in-the-blood-if-i-were-the-devil/

 

Reverend Paul N. Papas II is a Pastoral Counselor with Narrow Path Ministries (MA and AZ) and Founder of the Family Renewal Center (AZ) www.narrowpathministries.org and www.familyrenewalcenteraz.org

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Access Denied

January 1, 2016

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By Rev Paul N. Papas II

December 29, 2015

 

In this day and age most of us are used to conducing internet searches for all kinds of things. Have you ever typed in a subject about a current event to be told by the search engine ‘Access Denied’ ?  I was last week. I tried a different search engine and was able to obtain information about the event.

 

It is likely you have heard of issues concerning the care of Veterans by the current Veterans Administration.  The Veterans who are patients at a VA Hospital are not faring much better with their physical or spiritual needs.   Prayers by Chaplains must be prescreened for offensive words, like Jesus. This means that their access is being denied to hear the Word of God.

 

A few years ago, as a matter of conscience, I ended my status as a volunteer Chaplain as I would not allow anyone to prescreen prayers.

 

Combat Veterans were asked to do nearly impossible missions of securing territory at great personal risk of harm to themselves in the face of danger. Some Veterans rescued others without regard to their own safety. Some Veterans gave all they had and will never raise sons and daughters. Veterans gave so much so that our nation would be free.

 

There are many people who suffer from fear, anxiety, or PTSD with a multitude of possible causes or causal events. Each sufferer of fear, anxiety, or PTSD can be helped.  One help that has proven successful for many is their reliance upon their spiritual faith.  A good spiritual life gives hope.  Hope is a key to healing. People who have hope can endure suffering, while looking forward to that hope.

 

Man is not all you can see. He has a spiritual aspect, or as some say, a spiritual body.  Both the physical and spiritual aspects, or bodies, must be exercised to be strong and make a whole person.

 

The answer as to why some people deny others hope goes back to the Garden of Eden when the snake lied to and misled Eve who passed on the lie to Adam, denying access to hope.  Misery loves company.

 

Have you ever noticed that some people complain about every little thing, they seem to enjoy taking the joy out of life?

 

Isn’t it a pleasure to be around people who seem to smile from the inside?smile

 

Both the complainer and the smiler could be experiencing the worst times of their lives and you would not know it unless you got to know them. Who would you rather get to know the complainer or the smiler?

 

Most likely the complainer does not have a good spiritual foundation and is full of darkness. It is also just as likely that the smiler has a good spiritual foundation and lets the light shine through.

 

The smiler is more likely to handle bad situations better, require less medical attention, and heal faster.

 

Veterans gave a Blank Check which could have included their death to Uncle Sam in order to keep this country the Home of the Brave and the Land of the Free. The least we could do is give the Veterans hope and the care when needed.  Let’s break open the doors to the VA and let some fresh air, light and hope shine in!

always a soldier

 

Reverend Paul N. Papas II is a Pastoral Counselor with Narrow Path Ministries (MA and AZ) and Founder of the Family Renewal Center (AZ) www.narrowpathministries.org and www.familyrenewalcenteraz.org 


Sustained by Soil

September 4, 2015

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September 1, 2015 By Rev. Paul N. Papas II

We came from soil, we go back to soil, and we are sustained by soil. That makes soil a pretty important part of our lives. What’s the difference between soil and dirt? Dirt is what you find under your fingernails. Soil is what you find under your feet.

Think of soil as a thin living skin that covers the earth. It goes down into the ground just a short way. Even the most fertile topsoil is only a foot or so deep. Soil is more than rock particles. It includes all the living things and the materials they make or change.

Soil itself is very complex. It would be very wrong to think of soils as just a collection of fine mineral particles. Soil also contains air, water, dead organic matter, and various types of living organisms. The formation of a soil is influenced by organisms, climate, topography, parent material, and time.

Soil is also critical to our ecosystem and water cycle. The rain has to go somewhere, be held, feed plants and animals and evaporate, creating more rain. Different soils support different vegetation which are eaten or decay as part of the life cycle.

“And to every beast of the earth and to every bird of the heavens and to everything that creeps on the earth, everything that has the breath of life, I have given every green plant for food.” And it was so.”
Genesis 1:3

Some of the decayed plants and animals are consumed by us in the form of fuel.

Soil based products or organisms are used by us often such as glass and some medications.

Jesus taught the Parable of the Sower discussing Four Soils. A Parable is simply an earthly story with a heavenly meaning.

He said, “A farmer went out to plant his seed. He scattered the seed on the ground. Some fell on a path. Birds came and ate it up. Some seed fell on rocky places, where there wasn’t much soil. The plants came up quickly, because the soil wasn’t deep. When the sun came up, it burned the plants. They dried up because they had no roots. Other seed fell among thorns. The thorns grew up and crowded out the plants. Still other seed fell on good soil. It produced a crop 100, 60 or 30 times more than what was planted. Those who have ears should listen and understand.” Matthew 13: 1-9

The four soils represent the hearts of different kinds of people: the way they hear truth; and they way will conduct themselves after being confronted by the truth. Some simply can’t handle the truth.

Hard Path: Some of the seed fell on a path, and the birds came and ate it up. Some people hear the truth, but like hardened paths, they do not let it sink into their hearts Soon Satan takes the truth away. (In the Bible, birds are sometimes a picture of Satan.) If people do not receive and respond to the word with faith, their opportunity will be stolen by the evil one.

Rocky Places: Next, some of the seed fell onto rocky places. These people hear the message with great joy, but like seeds on rocky soil, they do not let it take root. They seem to be happy to hear about Jesus (the Truth) and His great love, but they do not let it sink into their hearts. On the outside, they may express great enthusiasm, but inwardly, they do not carefully consider it. There were great crowds who followed Jesus, but only a few were His true disciples. When these people face pressure or bad circumstances, they quickly forget about the Truth. A true believer follows Jesus no matter what.

Thorns: Still other seed fell among thorns. Some people hear the Truth and start to grow and bear fruit. But soon they become worried about the problems of daily living. They may think if they only had more money and more “things” they would be happy. These wrong beliefs take up all the person’s time and energy, just like the weeds steal all the nutrients from the good plants. These people do not focus on living in the Truth, so they don’t produce any spiritual fruit. There is nothing wrong with the sower or the seed. The problem is the soil, the person who hears the Truth. He must trust the Truth to deliver him from his worries and greed so that he can grow in the Truth.

Good Soil: Still other seed fell on good soil. It produced a crop 100, 60, or 30 times more than what was planted. Isn’t it great to know that some of the seed fell on good soil? This represents the people who heard the Truth and believed it. They put their trust in the Truth. Their hearts received the message of the kingdom, and the seed will take root.

There is a lot going on in our world today that can be traced to the Parable of the Sower.

People are being assaulted, shot, raped, murdered, or beheaded because the were in the wrong place, wore the wrong clothing, belonged to the wrong group or because they disagreed or used some word or phrase that arbitrarily became a real or imagined offense. Those who perpetrate the manipulation and crimes I just described would have in years past been placed in a locked ward for a significant amount of time for being a danger to themselves or others. Instead they presently have a significant influence upon what is being said on some media. Those who perpetrate the manipulation and crimes I described heard the truth and it fell on the hard path, rocky places or among the thorns.

Fortunately there are enough around who heard the Truth and it fell on the good soil. When it is time to rebuild what the others have destroyed it will done by those who have the deep rooted Truth growing in the good soil.

The good news is you can choose to plant Truth in the good soil at anytime.

Reverend Paul N. Papas II is a Pastoral Counselor with Narrow Path Ministries (MA and AZ) and Founder of the Family Renewal Center (AZ) http://www.narrowpathministries.org and http://www.familyrenewalcenteraz.org


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Time For Jefferson Correction

October 3, 2014

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By Rev Paul N. Papas II
September 29, 2014

‘Anarchy could threaten the 2016 vote’, is a recent headline. Our Founders gave us a Republic guaranteeing our God given Rights. See my recent article https://preacher01704.wordpress.com/2014/07/04/shall-we-keep-it/

Would you leave your doors and windows unlocked, or cash on the table, or your Credit Card with your pin number on the kitchen table, or go on vacation and expect all of that to be there when you returned? You might have been able to do that six decades ago and find everything where you left it, but not today.

In about a month this Country will choose between two main groups.

One Group wants to further escalate their centralization governing agenda to include:

– All your doors and windows unlocked, cash on the table, Credit Card with your pin number left on the kitchen table as you leave the house;

– The home you paid for is no longer yours, as your Right to owning private property has been taken away;

– Your Saturday yard work can’t be done as the local authorities did not give you the required permit;

– You can no longer decide what is best for your family, because the children you brought in this world belong to the state;

– The borders are erased between town, cities, and states with all decisions emanating from one central government; and

– The Fruits of your years of labor are taken from you and given to the many murders, rapists, and terrorists who just waltzed into our Country through the porous unprotected borders.

The Other Group has its roots in places such as Lexington, Concord, and the Old North Church wants us to return us to our Roots:

– The People were the Employer of those they elected to represent them;

– People and Leaders took personal responsibility and did not blame their failures on others;

– Locks on doors, which are only meant to keep honest people honest, were not always used;

– Neighbors knew each other, helped, and protected each other and their families;

– Each town, city, and state decided locally how to address their own issues;

– The Federal Government was responsible for keeping our borders secure and dealing with foreign Nations as their prime responsibility. The Federal Budget was minuscule compared to today’s Federal Budget.

Thomas Jefferson said that when the government goes astray, it is up to the people to make the correction. Too many of today’s elected and appointed officials have the frightening notion that they are the masters and we are their slaves.

Dr Ben Carson recently said that with Ebola unchecked and the heavy burden of those flooding across our unsecure borders reaping the many benefits would overwhelm and collapse our system and could result in anarchy. He said “…you have to recognize that we have a rapidly increasing national debt, a very unstable financial foundation and you have all these things going on like the ISIS crisis that could very rapidly change things that are going on in our nation.” He further explained that anarchy would most likely result in Martial Law and a cancelation of elections leaving the current president in office until some future date.

The One Group who wants centralization would increase their various methods of controlling the people including the weaponization of the mental health facilities and drugs and the cessation of the First Amendment. See my previous articles https://preacher01704.wordpress.com/2013/03/01/new-old-weapon-of-destruction-rediscovered/ https://preacher01704.wordpress.com/2013/06/07/stepping-up-use-of-new-old-weapons/ https://preacher01704.wordpress.com/2013/09/06/chilling-first-amendment/

Our Nation is at a critical time in its history. Will it survive or will it die and become another great nation that passed into the annals of history? Are you ready to try to explain to your grandchildren what Liberty once was or will you experience it with them?

You decide….then VOTE.

Vote for the One Group to get this….
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Reverend Paul N. Papas II is a Pastoral Counselor with Narrow Path Ministries (MA and AZ) and Founder of the Family Renewal Center (AZ) http://www.narrowpathministries.org and http://www.familyrenewalcenteraz.org


Worrying About The Future …. Can You Help The Outcome?

October 5, 2012

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By Rev. Paul N. Papas II

2 October 2012

Worrying About The Future …. Can You Help The Outcome?

A look at today’s hot election season and the world events could have you ready to hide under the sheets until it is over. Fear of what could be the future could have you headed to the psychiatrist’s couch.

Its dark out and you’re home alone. The house is quiet other than the sound of the show you’re watching on TV. You see it and hear it at the same time: The front door is suddenly thrown against the door frame.

Your breathing speeds up, your our heart races, and your our muscles tighten.

A split second later, you know it’s the wind. No one is trying to get into your home.

For a split second, you were so afraid that you reacted as if your life were in danger, your body initiating the fight-or-flight response that is critical to any animal’s survival. But really, there was no danger at all. What happened to cause such an intense reaction? What exactly is fear? In this article, we’ll examine the psychological and physical properties of fear, find out what causes a fear response and look at some ways you can defeat it

Fear is a chain reaction in the brain that starts with a stressful stimulus and ends with the release of chemicals that cause a racing heart, fast breathing and energized muscles, among other things, also known as the fight-or-flight response. The stimulus could be a spider, a knife at your throat, an auditorium full of people waiting for you to speak or the sudden thud of your front door against the door frame.

­The brain is a profoundly complex organ. More than 100 billion nerve cells comprise an intricate network of communications that is the starting point of everything we sense, think and do. Some of these communications lead to conscious thought and action, while others produce autonomic responses. The fear response is almost entirely autonomic: We don’t consciously trigger it or even know what’s going on until it has run its course.

Because cells in the brain are constantly transferring information and triggering responses, there are dozens of areas of the brain at least peripherally involved in fear.

Fear often manifests itself by the impulse to escape or run away. Various nuances of fear include dismay, anxiety, worry, shyness, fright, alarm, horror, terror, or panic-all forms of fear to one degree or another.

There are some basic causes of fear. Depending on our emotions and psychological makeup, we will react accordingly. These categories are broad, and many different situations may fit under each. A very helpful book for understanding the cause of fear is entitled, Discovering Ourselves, by Edward Strecker and John Appel, published by the Macmillan Company, New York, 1963.

What causes fear? Why do people often react differently when frightful situations arise? The answer has to do with human emotions. The better we understand our emotions, the more equipped we are to handle various circumstances that may arise. Many programs to the problem of handling fear have been suggested. Some people have been able to employ these programs successfully. Others have not. For many, these strategies seem to work temporarily, but eventually the problem of fear returns. All these programs overlook the most important thing of all-relying on God for His help. For the Christian there is a permanent solution to the problem of fear, a problem that may have to be faced many times during our lives.

There are three basic causes of fear. These are: the possibility of harm, the possibility of frustration (the failure to achieve), and the possibility of not surviving. Any of these fears may be caused by real or imagined threats.

Fear brings bondage. There is no getting around that fact. When a spirit of fear takes root in your life, you become a slave to that fear. Faith brings freedom, which is why the devil works so hard to keep Christians in fear and out of faith. If he cannot take a person to hell, he will at least try to keep that person bound up, paralyzed, and ineffective as a Christian witness. If any Christian ever gets hold of faith and the liberty faith brings, the devil knows he is in trouble!

Is there anything wrong with fear? The answer: It depends on the way one responds to fear. Fear is an integral part of man’s nature which serves as a protective device. It is a part of life. In many ways it can prevent us from suffering harm, but the reaction to fear varies greatly with individuals. Emotions were placed within the nature of man to add interest to our lives. Emotions give excitement, make life enjoyable, and produce a great deal of variety. They add zest and color. The right kind of fear enables us to handle the various problems in life and to insure our safety and mental comfort. Wrongly controlled they can be debilitating, harmful, paralyzing, and destructive. It has been said that many who have a medical condition of a mental illness suffer from uncontrolled emotions. Emotions, therefore, can either be good or bad.

IF your fear relates to what may or may not happen on November 6, 2012 then I suggest that you earnestly work to advancing your cause by actively working for your candidate and actually vote.  I suggest you do the research to know your candidates past the sound bytes that are presented on the three old standby networks of ABC, CBS, and NBC.  I would suggest the following link as a way of starting the discussion, you may agree or disagree with the content, however it should have you thinking about the content.  http://reclaimourrepublic.wordpress.com/2012/10/01/the-movie-obamas-america-2016-a-must-see-at-this-link/

Vote November 6, 2012.

Reverend Paul N. Papas II is a Pastoral Counselor with Narrow Path Ministries (MA and AZ) and Founder of the Family Renewal Center (AZ).www.narrowpathministries.org and www.familyrenewalcenteraz.org 


Doing Our Part To Give Thanks and Help

November 8, 2009

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By Rev. Paul N. Papas II

We have two days this month to give thanks; Veterans Day and Thanksgiving.

Veterans Day celebrates those who made it home, those who did not come home, and those who are trying to make it home after fighting for our freedoms. Freedom is not free as it requires that men and women fight and die far from home.

Thanksgiving celebrates the fruits of the first harvest in new home. It was a time when new friends thanked God for seeing them through time times. The new settlers lost many who made the trip from England during the first year. They could not go back to England, so they resolved to put their best effort into making a home here.

War Veterans, the Pilgrims, and many people today have a few things in common. They experienced a lot of trauma; they witnessed one or multiple events that forever changed their very being and lives.

And once you do have such an event it’s your response to that event that makes the difference. In general many people have a great deal of resilience, and when they are presented with extraordinary traumas they march through them, they make their way, they adjust to them.

The stressful event is an out of the ordinary experience that people would go through. So war being one of them that perhaps is most familiar to many people, but there are certainly a variety of childhood traumas and tragedies that can occur that are outside the normal experience. One of the consequences of people experiencing a stressful event is what has become known as post-traumatic stress disorder, PTSD.

The other kinds of things that are more typical of a post-traumatic stress response and post-traumatic stress disorder fall into two broad categories. One is a numbing type of response, and the other is an alerting or alarming response. Numbing response often will occur after or in some cases immediately after the trauma, but the people who get the alerting, agitation, they are very upset by it, that’s the most immediate and the most common response that people are used to thinking about in post-traumatic stress disorder. Reliving traumatic events can produce, sweating, rise in blood pressure, pulse rate is high, and eyes are dilated. It’s a fight or flight type response as it’s been known for almost a hundred years.

There is a lot written on PTSD and some symptoms are worse than others.

Sometimes people get very vivid dreams that will keep them up at night, will wake them up, bordering on nightmares that they will have and that these dreams sometimes start so intrude into their daytime life, and they start to become experienced as almost hallucinations or flashbacks that go back to the traumatic event, and they are constantly re-experiencing it. Things that are just the most subtle reminders will sometimes bring the whole event back, the classic example being from the soldiers from Vietnam when they would smell diesel fuel, that they would start to get the reminders of napalm, and they would then have a whole flashback to a whole series of perhaps traumatic events where they may have been injured themselves or one of their buddies may have been killed. Another example would be when they are hearing helicopter sounds, and it will trigger a flashback to being under fire in a very dangerous situation but again they may have actually gotten injured in. That would cause an alerting, hyper arousal that can be noticed.

Some Veterans do make it back to their home town, but their thoughts and reactions are still stuck in the events. This is what I meant earlier when I said some are still trying to make it home. The Veterans Administration spends a significant amount of time and money trying to bring the Vets home. Vietnam Vets experienced such things as having a “friendly” person by day attacking them by night. A person they trust is actually their enemy. Therefore trusting people can become a major issue.

Some would say that children are very resilient when facing devastating circumstances such as divorce, death of a parent or abuse. It is not true.

To be resilient means that when something happens, you return to your original emotional cognitive shape. That means a child becomes who they were before the traumatic event took place. An abuse child does not become as if he or she were never abused. A child who loses a parent never returns to being the child who had that parent. Children are shaped by those events.

Police Officers and other first responders to an event, such as the twin tower attack on 9-11-01 or a local car accident are among those who suffer from PTSD.

It is significant to note that New York State has authorized Workmen’s Compensation insurance payments for 9/11 volunteers who where not employees of the state or City of New York for such certain claims such as PTSD.

Some Katrina volunteers suffer from PTSD.

PTSD can be an unwelcomed consequence of people helping people or people witnessing or being a part of a traumatic event.

PTSD is not a dreaded disease. There is help and people can get to the point where they are able to function normally. It just takes time and work. PTSD is a medical condition of a mental illness.

I don’t know of any records going that far back, but I would imagine that the Pilgrims also suffered PTSD, especially in their first year here.

It is a great day when a Veteran finally returns home mentally and physically, as some as still on that journey.

As we approach Veterans Day and later Thanksgiving this month let us all remember how we got here and be thankful for what we’ve come through, what we have, and for those who helped get us here.

The celebration continues as each person is made whole. We all have a part and can all join in on the celebration.

Rev Paul N. Papas II is a Pastoral Counselor with Narrow Path Ministries (located in MA and AZ), founder of the Family Renewal Center and past President of NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) Greater Framingham. NAMI has a variety of support services for family, friends and those who suffer from a Mental Illness http://www.narrowpathministries.org, http://www.familyrenewalcenteraz.org,


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