Mr. Shadow

January 6, 2022

By Reverend Paul N. Papas II

January 2, 2022

It is pretty well known that pets have assisted and comforted man for a long time. What happens when they need our help? Some are cast off, abandoned, or brought to a shelter. Some shelters only hold on to the animal for so many days before euthanizing them. In today’s throw away culture I expect euthanizing unwanted pets, animals, and humans to become more prevalent. Someone said “Rescue Dog does not mean damaged… It means they have been let down by humans” That may not be 100 percent accurate, however it does reflect the throw away culture.

How does the throw away culture bear a true witness to real love? If you deny our one Creator God; love would just be a word which some like to use.

Love is a verb, an action word. Love is not that tingling feeling based in lust.

Researchers are finding that pets truly have the power to heal their owners, especially the elderly. The most serious disease for older people is not cancer or heart disease, but loneliness. (1)

When Mr. Shadow entered our home over fifteen years ago this cat could jump six foot high fences at a single bound. He was a playful, loyal, loving gentle soul. If he didn’t trust a person or two at the door he would sit or lay down between me and the person at the door. When needed he growled like a Sheppard, which none dare challenge.

Some months ago things started to change for Mr. Shadow. The first of the two signs I remember is his lack of interest in his favorite treat and he began to walk back and forth. (2)  He got to the point where he had trouble walking or doing other common tasks. He received all the assistance he needed to eat and accomplish other common tasks right to the end. At sixteen and a half years he passed away in my arms on December 6, 2021. I am glad he was not alone.

His furry friend (Mittens) of about fifteen years misses him as well. I tell her we’ll just have to wait until we get to Heaven to see him again.

“Scripture does not conclusively tell us whether our pets will make it to Heaven. However, the Bible does provide us with some significant clues regarding whether or not animals will inhabit the new heaven and the new earth.

First, animals populated the Garden of Eden. Thus, there is a precedent for believing that animals will populate Eden Restored as well. Animals are among God’s most creative creations. Thus, it would seem incredible that he would banish such wonders in Heaven.

Furthermore, while we cannot say for certain that the pets we enjoy today will be “resurrected” in eternity; I am not willing to preclude the possibility. Some of the keenest thinkers from C. S. Lewis to Peter Kreeft are not only convinced that animals in general but those pets in particular will be restored in the resurrection. If God resurrected our pets, it would be in total keeping with his overwhelming grace and goodness.

Finally, the Scriptures from first to last suggest that animals have souls. Both Moses in Genesis and John in Revelation communicate that the Creator endowed animals with souls. In the original languages of Genesis 1:20 and Revelation 8:9, nephesh and psyche respectively refer to the essence of life or soul. Not until Descartes and Hobbes and the Enlightenment did people think otherwise about animals. However, because the soul of an animal is qualitatively different from the soul of a human there is reasonable doubt that it can survive the death of its body. One thing is certain: Scripture provides us with sufficient precedence for believing that animals will inhabit the new heaven and new earth. In the words of Isaiah: “The wolf will live with the lamb, the leopard will lie down with the goat, the calf and the lion and the yearling together; and a little child will lead them” (Isaiah 11:6).” (3)

“God has a special reason and place for each of His created beings. Animals, too, have a purpose in God’s creation. Man, as the highest order of creation, has been given dominion over the animal kingdom (Genesis 1:26-28).

We believe that animals were intended for man’s enjoyment and use. The Bible itself does not indicate that there is life after death for animals. It may be that God’s purpose for animals is fulfilled on this earth. However, if animals would make us happier in heaven, surely there will be a place for them there.” (4)

Mr. Shadow exhibited and received unconditional love. Unconditional love is what our Creator God has for each of us. Individuals are free to accept God’s unconditional love or reject it.  

Mr. Shadow was a joy and brought us a lot of happiness.

Happiness is rooted in circumstance. Happiness doesn’t bring joy, and joy isn’t the byproduct of happiness. Joy is an attitude of the heart.  Joy is a fruit of the Spirit, and when we find joy it will be with comfort and wrapped in peace. It’s an attitude of the heart and spirit, often synonymous with but not limited to following Christ Jesus and pursuing a Christian life.

Our Creator God who can make the stones cry out and made a donkey speak certainly can use Mr. Shadow or others like him to evangelize God’s love to the world,

The world needs more Mr. Shadows to overcome the God deniers.

Reverend Paul N. Papas II is a Pastoral Counselor with Narrow Path Ministries (MA and AZ) and Founder of the Family Renewal Center (AZ)  and







Some related scriptures of animals in heaven:  Genesis 1:24, Genesis 1:25, Psalms 24:1, Psalms 145:21, Proverbs 12:10, Ecclesiastes 3:1, Ecclesiastes 3:21, Isaiah 11:6-9, Isaiah 65:25, Matthew 10:29, Luke 3:6, Acts 3:19-21, Romans 8:19-22, 1 Corinthians 2:9, Revelation 5:13, Revelation 19:11, Revelation 19:14

The Best Gift You’ll Ever Receive?

December 2, 2021

By Reverend Paul N. Papas II

November 30, 2021

It is not uncommon today to hear someone else or some group has been forced out of their jobs, careers, and livelihoods because of a nationwide power grab. This just added more stress to the spiraling downward quality of living and economy over the past year. The poor are getting poorer and some are just not poor enough.

The not poor enough either have too many assets or too much money to qualify for federal or state assistance for afford food, housing, and medicine. The not poor enough often have to choose between eating, housing, or medicine.

Here is an example:

“At age 69, Sandi Zahar takes home around $3,100 a month from Social Security and her part-time job, but still relies on a food bank.

She has diabetes and is a cancer survivor, and estimates that about a third of her income goes to her health care costs. Her income is too high to qualify for food stamps or Medicaid. And she needs to keep working to make ends meet.

“I don’t know how long I am going to be able to work,” said Zahar, who lives in Texas. “Physically, I probably shouldn’t be working … it’s taking a toll on my body.”

She’s had to make some tough decisions on how to cut back.

“I went on an insulin pump because Medicare pays for it. I don’t like it, it’s not as good for me, but it’s cheaper,” she said.

Millions of Americans like her make too much money to qualify for federal assistance, but struggle to afford to put food on the table.

More than 41 million people are “food insecure,” meaning they don’t have consistent access to adequate food, according to Feeding America. One in four people who are food insecure aren’t likely to be eligible for most federal nutrition programs, a recent report from the hunger-relief organization found.

That means they either go hungry, skip meals, or rely on food banks to fill in the gaps.

Zahar gets a box of food from the food bank once a month.

She’s careful with how she spends money on food, buying in bulk when she can and cooking longer-lasting meals.” (1)

Americans have been known as hard workers who prefer to earn their own way. Americans have also been known for being generous to a fault and ready to help their neighbor. Their neighbor could be next door or on the other side of the country if a fire, hurricane, tornado, or flood hits.

There are many organizations available to help the not poor enough, victims of disasters such as a fire, hurricane, tornado, or flood. Do your own research on the resources listed below or others you may find. The organizations listed below are good examples of what can be done to help those in need; no endorsement is implied or given. You are free to mention other helpful resources in the comments section.  

Churches and other non-profits have experienced a financial downturn as well over the past year making their resources rather sparse.  In times past they could be counted on to provide assistance.

  “5 Minutes” Film

What if you are given “5 Minute” or less…? (2)

If you had to leave your home in 5 minutes, what would you take with you? This question is just as hard for a large amount of kids who are in our foster care systems today. It’s also a question we explore through the eyes of a child in this short film produced by Serena Collins.

With Christmas coming would you please make an extra special effort to help someone in anyway you can, either directly or indirectly. You’ll both be glad you did. It may be the best gift you’ll ever receive.

Have a Merry and Blessed Christmas!

Reverend Paul N. Papas II is a Pastoral Counselor with Narrow Path Ministries (MA and AZ) and Founder of the Family Renewal Center (AZ)  and





Give Thanks Everyday

November 4, 2021

By Reverend Paul N. Papas II

November 2, 2021

No matter how bad your situation may look that day, there is something or someone for which you can give thanks. You may only be thankful that you are above the grass and not below it. Perhaps you know you are above the grass because you feel pain and in heaven you won’t.

Perhaps you can see or hear for the first time.

Perhaps your candidate won.

Perhaps you have food to eat and clean water to drink.

Perhaps you have a home to live in.

Perhaps the lights and water are on.

Here are some examples of being thankful:

The Masai tribe in West Africa have an unusual way of saying thank you. Translators tell us that when the Masai express thanks, they bow, put their forehead on the ground, and say “My head is in the dirt.”

When members of another African tribe want to express gratitude, they sit for a long time in front of the hut of the person who did the favor and literally say, “I sit on the ground before you.”

These Africans understand well what thanksgiving is and why it’s difficult for us: at its core, thanksgiving is an act of humility.

Continue earnestly in prayer, being vigilant in it with thanksgiving. –Colossians 4:2


A missionary to Haiti was told by a doctor that she might have cancer. A biopsy was performed and sent away for analysis. As she waited for the results, she was filled with fear and could find no peace of mind.

Then one evening her anxiety suddenly lifted like a cloud. She had a deep and inexpressible awareness that the Lord would take care of her husband and children and their emotional needs, regardless of the outcome.

As she reflected on all of this, it occurred to her that it was Wednesday evening–prayer meeting night in her home church back in the United States. She also realized that it was the first Wednesday night after friends had been notified of the potential crisis. These facts convinced this faithful missionary that God had given her an opportunity to sense His answer to the prayers of others on her behalf. In addition, the medical report soon came back with the welcome news that there was no cancer.


A Peasant found an Eagle captured in a trap, and as he admired the bird, set him free. The Eagle did not prove ungrateful to his deliverer, for seeing the Peasant sitting under a wall which was not safe, he flew toward him and with his talons snatched a bundle from his head. When the Peasant rose in pursuit, the Eagle let the bundle fall again. Taking it up, the man returned to the same place, to find that the wall under which he had been sitting had fallen to pieces; and he marveled at the service rendered him by the Eagle.

Christians have a lot to be grateful for: Jesus Christ suffered and died for their sins. Have you thanked God lately?

Everyday you can find something or someone for which to be thankful.

Being thankful you generally will experience these benefits: have better relationships; have better health; are emotionally healthier; be more compassionate; be less resentful; be more resilient; be calmer; have better immunity; are better team players; are less materialistic; are more optimistic; are less self-centered; are more productive; feel more joyful; and are more relaxed. I would think most people would like to enjoy all those benefits.

Thank you.

Reverend Paul N. Papas II is a Pastoral Counselor with Narrow Path Ministries (MA and AZ) and Founder of the Family Renewal Center (AZ)  and

A Fine Kettle Of Fish

September 30, 2021

By Reverend Paul N. Papas II

September 28, 2021 – updated

Unless you’ve been living in your basement for the last year or so you’ve watching the worst international disaster unfold daily before your eyes. While you are watching the international disaster unfold remember there is one person who had the authority, opportunity, and the means to prevent all this from happening instead he choked and gave an elbow bump to the Speaker (1). I wonder how he sleeps at night.

That chocking has caused untold suicides, anger, anxiety, mental anguish, deaths, and economic chaos in large portions of our population through many edicts by Joe who was allowed to be unlawfully seated.

As we hear testimony I wonder who is in charge from the miraculous emergence from the basement. Two generals claim they warned Joe not to surrender. One of those generals also conspired with China.    

Early after the election it became apparent that body doubles were needed for Joe. Perhaps the generals did warn one of the body doubles perhaps not all of them. (2)

“Arthur Roberts, the 83-year-old C-List actor who portrays Joseph Biden on television and in person, blew his cover during a televised press conference with UK Prime Minister Boris Johnson earlier this week.” (2)

“In a moment not caught on microphone and spoken softly enough for the press pool to not overhear, Roberts began lamenting to Johnson his failed film career, and he asked the UK Prime Minister whether he had seen the films Little Miss Magic and Up in Smoke, in which he had minor roles.” (2)

“A theatrically masked Boris Johnson, our source said, discretely muted his microphone and spoke softly in Roberts’ direction, asking, “You’re not Joe Biden. Who the bloody h** are you?”(2)

“Even though he muted his mic, Jen Psaki and White House Communications Director Kate Bedingfield were in another office, and able to overhear the entire discourse through hidden parabolic mics in the briefing room. They, how should I put this, freaked the f*** out. They began screaming into Roberts’ hidden earpiece to get back on script or read only from the teleprompter. That’s when Roberts silenced his own mic and told Boris he was only joking around. But Psaki feared the situation would deteriorate, and she immediately ordered the room cleared,” our source said. (2)

He added that a bewildered Johnson later asked Psaki “what the h** just happened,” and was told to forget the entire incident, unless the UK wanted to lose all U.S. support.”(2)

Joe’s hallmark is suppression or elimination of those who disagree with him, a Soviet Union and a Red China tactic. Here is one example of a silencing:  Lt. Col. Scheller’s Attorney Joins Tucker Carlson to Discuss His Political Imprisonment For Speaking Out Against Biden’s Afghanistan Debacle; Marine’s Father Also Issues Statement. (3)

People don’t like being oppressed. People don’t like being lied to. People don’t like their voice silenced at the ballot box.

Here is Kari Lake’s take:  AZ Gubernatorial Candidate Kari Lake After AZ Audit Results – Calls For INDICTMENTS Against LYING Fake News: “We Should Look At CRIMINALLY Charging Them As Well” (4)

State Senator Sonny Borrelli weighs in: AZ State Senator Sonny Borrelli – Evidence Turned Over To AG Brnovich For Criminal Investigation – MSM PsyOp Spreads Propaganda To Demoralize Americans (5)

All is not lost, there is hope, and together we will get through this fine kettle of fish.  We are a strong people. We are a resilient people. Corrections are on the way.

Look up, our help comes from above. The photo on top was taken in Perry, Georgia before the Rally (6).

Reverend Paul N. Papas II is a Pastoral Counselor with Narrow Path Ministries (MA and AZ) and Founder of the Family Renewal Center (AZ)  and








Computer Programmer Testifies He Was Hired To Rig Elections

The Absolutely Damning Video That Opened Mike Lindell’s Cyber Symposium

Maricopa County admits they DELETED and moved the election data to hide it from auditors AFTER they got a subpoena

Cyber Ninjas CEO Tells Congress to Fork Off and Joins ConservativeDaily 

 21 Years of Election Fraud — and They All Know


Representative Jim Jordan Confronts Merrick Garland – The Great Awakening of The American People Has Begun

LIVE STREAM VIDEO: WI Sheriff Schmaling: ‘ELECTION LAW WAS NOT JUST BROKEN BUT SHATTERED!” – Releases Evidence of Election Fraud in Racine, Wisconsin!

Eric Coomer explains how to alter votes in the Dominion system

Ruby caught on video *WITH AUDIO* Discussing Stealing Votes (GA)

Ep. 2615b – This Is The Tip Of The Iceberg, The Call For Election Decertification Is Getting Louder

‘Drop and Roll’ – How The 2020 Election Was Stolen From Donald Trump

FULL VIDEO Whistleblower in Delaware Co, PA w/evidence of destruction of election data and equipment

Democrats Questioning The Legitimacy Of Election Results And Voting Machines

Racine County Sheriff Refers Criminal Charges Against Five Top Wisconsin Elections Commissioners in Nursing Home Voting Scam

We would NOT need to DECERTIFY if this man was not a Traitor

Racine County Sheriff Files Criminal Charges Against 5 of 6 Members of Wisconsin Elections Commission – First Material Charges Country-wide Related to 2020 Election Theft > Where are the arrests by AZ AG Brnovich?

Meet Ray Epps, Part 2: Damning New Details Emerge Exposing Massive Web Of Unindicted Operators At The Heart Of January 6

The Wisconsin Purchase

How Mark Zuckerberg’s millions and the Center for Technology and Civic Life turned Wisconsin blue in 2020


Sign the petition to decertify the Presidential Election. Learn More

Contact Information for the AZ Attorney General. Ask him when the arrests will start of those who participated in the election steal.

Why Not Clean Up?

September 2, 2021

By Reverend Paul N. Papas II

September 1, 2021

I haven’t taken a bath in years, ever since I discovered showers. When I was young we all used the same bath water before pulling the plug. The youngest had some pretty dirty water to bath in.

There are many good reasons to wash regularly. We use our hands to touch so many things these days. The surface may look clean with our naked eye but in reality be a petri dish of bacteria.

Most people learn to clean up after themselves when they are young. Children live up to expectations. Once parents have outlined, taught, explained, and demonstrated what you want done, they expect their child to clean up after themselves.  Expect it and have faith they will.

It’s essential to clean your facial and body skin daily not only for removing the dirt but also for the exfoliation needed for retaining bright skin. Using natural beauty or skincare products diminishes the chance of skin irritation. Most people make it a daily ritual to clean their skin, and when possible, with an herbal cleansing product to tear off the layer of dirt and blemishes.

In this hurricane/ tornado/ flood season there will be plenty of opportunities to help rescue those trapped as a result of the storms. There will also be plenty of opportunities to help clean up devastation left behind by storms. This clean up is certainly nothing like cleaning up before or after a party.

Fast moving water can leave deep pools of muddy water and floating debris which bring a combination hazards and diseases.

After a fast moving water storm Fire Department crews need to repair and clean out equipment including hoses clogged with mud and debris. Utility crews work to restore power to impacted areas, and road crews are busy clearing rocks and broken pavement.

Fast moving water packs a big punch. As Katrina lifted good size boats out of the water and rested them in the middle of a road. Katrina stripped much of a first floor while leaving the second floor relatively untouched as in the picture I took in Mississippi in 2005.

There are other kinds of clean up which affect our very quality of life.

Clean air means good clean healthy lungs. Too many foreign particles can invade our lungs and eventually shut down our breathing. Deadly foreign particles can attack our lungs through the nose, by mouth, through our blood, and through our largest organ – our skin.

Clean water brings necessary hydration to our bodies. Clean water keeps our kidneys and other internal organs functioning well as they flush out our bodies. Clean water is also good for cooking food and washing. Could you imagine bathing in the same water seven others had just bathed in?

Then there is the ground we walk on. Imagine some particles so dangerous on the ground that they must be cleaned in a vacuum, especially around old mines.  When the wind blows the harmful and dangerous particles are carried off to different locations. As they are carried off in the air they can enter our bodies by touch, through the nose or mouth. Once in the body the lungs, heart, blood, and other vital organs can be damaged even ending our lives.

We currently have the technology to cost effectively clean up our air, water and ground. This clean up can be accomplished with little or no government involvement. If needed, the government involvement can be accomplished at the local level.

Why not clean it up?

Reverend Paul N. Papas II is a Pastoral Counselor with Narrow Path Ministries (MA and AZ) and Founder of the Family Renewal Center (AZ)  and

Stand Fast

August 5, 2021

By Reverend Paul N. Papas II

August 3, 2021

Sometimes you just have to wait.

Waiting requires an action to stand fast while you are ready and remain ready and available for use.

We’ve all sat at a red light or two. Had we ignored the red light and proceeded straight ahead we could have been the cause of a major accident which resulted in bodily injury. Ignoring the red light and proceeding straight ahead could have also resulted in our death.

Sometimes waiting is a Blessing.

If you’ve made pancakes lately you may remember the warning on the box not to eat the uncooked mix. Waiting for it to fully cook is a Blessing.

You have heard that eating raw meat or pork could cause you a variety of medical issues. Waiting for it to thoroughly cook is a Blessing.

Sometimes waiting results in the Blessings of a life saving organ transplant.  For others the fear, anxiety, and worry continue as they wait for a life saving organ transplant or two.

Others face other ordeals along with fear, anxiety, and worry as they wait for promised pardons.

Then man and dogs wait separately for the same life changing things until they meet.

Soldiers waited on the battlefield for death or rescue. One man who endured abuse to be prepared at the right time rescues 75 soldiers.  The Real ‘Hacksaw Ridge’ Soldier Saved 75 Souls Without Ever Carrying A Gun

Waiting requires you to recognize the proper time to act as in the well told story of the man on the roof in a flood.  While waiting requires an action to stand fast while you are ready and remain ready and available for use you should take advantage of the best option available at that time.

 A fellow was stuck on his rooftop in a flood. He was praying to God for help.

Soon a man in a rowboat came by and the fellow shouted to the man on the roof, “Jump in, I can save you.”

The stranded fellow shouted back, “No, it’s OK, I’m praying to God and he is going to save me.”

So the rowboat went on.

Then a motorboat came by. “The fellow in the motorboat shouted, “Jump in, I can save you.”

To this the stranded man said, “No thanks, I’m praying to God and he is going to save me. I have faith.”

So the motorboat went on.

Then a helicopter came by and the pilot shouted down, “Grab this rope and I will lift you to safety.”

To this the stranded man again replied, “No thanks, I’m praying to God and he is going to save me. I have faith.”

So the helicopter reluctantly flew away.

Soon the water rose above the rooftop and the man drowned. He went to Heaven. He finally got his chance to discuss this whole situation with God, at which point he exclaimed, “I had faith in you but you didn’t save me, you let me drown. I don’t understand why!”

To this God replied, “I sent you a rowboat and a motorboat and a helicopter, what more did you expect?”

There is a lot going on in the world right now with corrections coming. As in like the examples above waiting is not always easy. In our waiting some could experience fear, anxiety, depression, and worry. We don’t know the details of what is being made ready for the day of rescue.  At the moment we should be at the ready, standing fast, until we recognize the proper time to act.

Let’s be ready in season and out of season, encouraging each other as we stand fast and wait for the Blessings.

Reverend Paul N. Papas II is a Pastoral Counselor with Narrow Path Ministries (MA and AZ) and Founder of the Family Renewal Center (AZ)  and

Some Things Won’t Change

July 1, 2021

By Reverend Paul N. Papas II

June 29, 2021

July 4th comes every year. The actual events and documents which gave us Independence Day on July 4th don’t change. There is a current movement afoot which seeks to delete facts and history and replace it with a disturbingly negative story. This disturbingly negative story seeks to install their propaganda at every level of education, major media outlets, big corporations, and the military.

Our military will no longer be an efficient cohesive combination of various size, shapes, colors, and backgrounds of people under this disturbingly negative story. Simply put in a foxhole when enemy rounds are incoming the real care is that those in the foxhole have each others back. If the disturbingly negative story were implemented in the military members of the military would not trust each other and the enemy would overrun our military. We’d be defeated from within. (1)

The governing document of our country is shorter than many contracts, has no fine print and easy to read, see (2).The Constitution of the United States is the foundational document of our American Government. It lays out the system of Government and the limits what our government may and may not do. Some say the Constitution lists the rights of the American people. Our Rights come from God not the government. It is the people who establish the government and grant certain powers to their representatives and government to act in their stead.

“We the People of the United States, in Order to form a more perfect Union, establish Justice, insure domestic Tranquility, provide for the common defence, promote the general Welfare, and secure the Blessings of Liberty to ourselves and our Posterity, do ordain and establish this Constitution for the United States of America”

A little spoken of Amendment to the Constitution, number Nine, supports the power is retained by the people.

“The enumeration in the Constitution, of certain rights, shall not be construed to deny or disparage others retained by the people.”

The War of Independence against British was fought to free Americans from the tyranny of the British Monarchy who arbitrarily imposed rules, laws, regulations, and edicts without consultation or consent of the governed.

Americans endured an oppressive form of government under the British and formed a bottom up form of government, a Constitutional Republic. Oppressive governments rule by fear, fear they may displease the ruler. Fear, anxiety, depression, and suicide run rampant under oppressive governments. Summary executions with due process become common under oppressive governments.

The Constitution has three parts. The Preamble tells the purpose of the document and Government. The Articles set up how the Government is organized and how the Constitution can be changed. The Amendments are changes to the Constitution. The First Ten Amendments are called the Bill of Rights.

Any laws which violate the Constitution are void, can not be enforced, because they are UnConstitutional. The Constitution can not be changed by legislative or executive fiat.

Refuse to be bullied into the disturbingly negative story.

The Constitution and Bible when correctly applied are recipes for Freedom, Liberty, tranquility for all and Independence.

Have a Blessed, Safe, and Happy Independence.

Reverend Paul N. Papas II is a Pastoral Counselor with Narrow Path Ministries (MA and AZ) and Founder of the Family Renewal Center (AZ)  and




Rediscover The Art Of Dadhood

May 27, 2021

By Reverend Paul N. Papas II

May 24, 2021

“Half the harm that is done in this world is due to people who want to feel important. They don’t mean to do harm, but the harm (that they cause) does not interest them. Or they do not see it, or they justify it because they are absorbed in the endless struggle to think well of themselves.” — T.S. Eliot This may be the way fathers act, but it is certainly not the way Dads act.

A lot goes into being a good Dad: Coaching of your partner through pregnancy and birth to bond to with your child is good. Learning to play with your infant even though he’ll never remember, is good. Counseling your teenage daughter about making smart choices is good.

Children are not helped, but rather hindered by the performance of mechanical acts of fatherhood. Being present is an empty suit without legitimately caring for your children and modeling good behavior. It does however model a bad parenting model.

Perhaps most importantly, Dads need to realize that their children are always watching, and that what they do matters. How well a Dad parents influences a child’s psychological, cognitive, and social development, and strongly steers them toward adulthood. How Dad and Mom disagree, discuss, argue, and then make up is important for children to learn things such as conflict resolution and the strength of the family unit. 


Because Dads really do matter to their children’s present and future.

Depressed Dads can create emotional wounds in their children. Depressed Dads may be able to perform the mechanical acts of fatherhood. Dadhood requires an “all in” boots on the ground engagement with their children. Dadhood can’t phone in or mail in their vote of ‘present’. Dadhood requires boots on the ground, in the trenches engagement with their children.

Studies show mass shooters had difficult childhoods and took Ritalin. Not all who took Ritalin become mass shooters. Have you read the warning labels? Medication is no substitute for Dadhood.  Some children appear to be ‘difficult” then get diagnosed with ADHD and fed Ritalin. Quite often the child is really screaming for boots on the ground, in the trenches engagement with dad.  In addition, “American psychiatrist Leon Eisenberg, who was the “scientific father of ADHD” and who said at the age of 87, seven months before his death in his last interview: “ADHD is a prime example of a fictitious disease”” (1)

I have seen depressed Dads withdraw and pour themselves into their work resulting in a family in crises. I have also seen depressed Dads markedly improve by taking a break from work to focus on and truly engage with their children. Instead of focusing on their own depression they put their boots on the ground and jumped in the trenches and engaged with their children. The more anyone focuses on their depression, the more likely they will spiral downward into themselves.  Each time depressed Dads exhibited Dadhood they shed some depression. This boots on the ground all in engagement can start by simply spending time with your children sitting or walking outside in the fresh air.  This can work for depressed moms as well.  

An effective way of teaching is to continually point the child back to foundational principles rather than to list a set of dos and don’ts. Positive reinforcement is very effective for seeing continued good behavior.

Children can be at a greater risk if Dads live a far distance from their children, for any number of reasons. In that case a Dad figure can fill the gap.

Jesus was raised by a step-dad and he turned out well.

Here are some well known symptoms of depression which can include any of the following:

  • Persistent sad, anxious or “empty” mood
  • Feelings of hopelessness, pessimism
  • Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, helplessness
  • Loss of interest or pleasure in hobbies and activities, including sex
  • Decreased energy, fatigue, feeling “slowed down”
  • Difficulty concentrating, remembering, making decisions
  • Insomnia, early-morning awakening, or oversleeping
  • Low appetite and weight loss or overeating and weight gain
  • Thoughts of death or suicide, suicide attempts
  • Restlessness, irritability
  • Persistent physical symptoms that do not respond to treatment, such as headaches, digestive disorders and pain for which no other cause can be diagnosed have been attributed to depression.

Here is a helpful source of information about Depression at the link below:

There are still many resources available to assist in becoming and remaining a Dad as fashioned as originally intended. Some of the most fulfilled Dads I know are the ones who put their boots on the ground, jump in the trenches and engage their children.

What have you got to loose, give it a try.

Reverend Paul N. Papas II is a Pastoral Counselor with Narrow Path Ministries (MA and AZ) and Founder of the Family Renewal Center (AZ)  and



Mothers Are Special

May 6, 2021

May 4, 2021 By Reverend Paul N. Papas II

Mothers and Grandmothers are some the most important people in our lives. They help share our character and beliefs. Sometimes, because of circumstances, the mother’s role is fulfilled by a Grandmother or a step-mother. Godly mothers with Godly fathers provide the best foundation for children in their formative years and as they grow up.

Mothers have a special position appointed by God.

She teaches, ministers, loves, and nurtures the next generation of citizens.  And she challenges and cajoles her children to do their best and be the best.

But few people take notice.  There will be no news stories proclaiming the virtues of a child being taught what it means to be loved, that an infant was hugged securely, or that the wonders of the classics were introduced to a young mind.  No one seems to care that a house was made into a home, or that a mere table with food was transformed into a place of fun.

It isn’t too late to restore the fine art of motherhood to its time-honored position in our society.  In spite of the current cultural hostility, lack of support from many husbands, and incredible pressure inside and outside the home, a real mom will continue to affirm the importance of motherhood. (1)

There are children who test the patience of even the strongest believers. Sometimes tough love is needed. You might consider this another prodigal son.

It is said that a young man became very profligate. He almost broke the hearts of his parents. The mother was actually about to die from the strain. Finally, one day he acted so shamefully that his father said to him, “We have done everything in our power for you. You have disgraced the family and are killing your mother. All that we do for you is in vain. I am sorry, but I must ask you to leave our home and never return.” The young man left.

The months and years went by. Finally the boy became so miserable and homesick it seemed he could not stand it. So he wrote his mother this letter: “Dear Mother: I am ashamed of my fearful conduct in the home. I can hardly stand to think I must never see you again. However, I do not know whether or not Father and you can forgive me. But I will be on train No. 2 that passes your home at 10:00 a.m. [Then he gave the day.] Now if you can forgive me and will take me back, I want you to hang a sheet out on the clothesline. I shall look as the train passes and, if I see the sheet, I will know that you will forgive me, and I will get off at the next station, just below the house, and come home.”

Well, what do you think she did? Not only did she hang out one sheet, but every sheet, towel, pillowcase and everything else white that she had. The clothesline, fence, and rosebushes were covered with sheets, towels, etc. Of course he came home, and, oh, such a welcome!

It was forgiveness in abundance. (2)

We can find our schedule is really full and forget the really important things in life. The following is an example.

A man stopped at a flower shop to order some flowers to be wired to his mother who lived two hundred miles away.

As he got out of his car he noticed a young girl sitting on the curb sobbing.

He asked her what was wrong and she replied, “I wanted to buy a red rose for my mother.

But I only have seventy-five cents, and a rose costs two dollars.”

The man smiled and said, “Come on in with me. I’ll buy you a rose.”

He bought the little girl her rose and ordered his own mother’s flowers.

As they were leaving he offered the girl a ride home.

She said, “Yes, please! You can take me to my mother.”

She directed him to a cemetery, where she placed the rose on a freshly dug grave.

The man returned to the flower shop, canceled the wire order, picked up a bouquet and drove the two hundred miles to his mother’s house. (3)

Mothers are ready for us. The Bible has many things to say about Mothers including the following.

Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.”… (Proverbs 31:25-30)  Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it. (Proverbs 22:6)

For those who were not Blessed with Godly parents or who otherwise endured rough times, do not despair there is healing available.  A rough upbringing can produce fear, anxiety, paranoia, PTSD or worse outcomes. A rough can be used as an excuse or can be overcome, that is a personal choice. Those who suffer, recover, and heal can help others who suffer.

Commemorations to honor mothers and motherhood have been happening for centuries and can be traced back to the Ancient Greeks and Romans who paid homage to their mother goddesses. Today, tributes to mothers occur all around the world at different times of the year, but the American version of Mother’s Day was started in May of 1908 by a woman named Anna Jarvis.

Mom needs a hug today.

Reverend Paul N. Papas II is a Pastoral Counselor with Narrow Path Ministries (MA and AZ) and Founder of the Family Renewal Center (AZ)  and


(1)  Dr. James Dobson and Gary Bauer’s book, Children At Risk

(2) William Moses Tidwell, “Pointed Illustrations.”


Temporary or Permanent Fix?

April 1, 2021

By Reverend Paul N. Papas II

March 30, 2021

You probably don’t need a list of issues that need your attention.

If you’ve had a plumber in to discuss his solution to your bathroom leak you’ll understand.  The quick-fix may turn out to be much more costly in the long run…and may not work at all.

Different people have different thoughts on how to address or resolve an issue and that is perfectly acceptable. We have a right to express our thoughts and ideas. We don’t have any right to require anyone else to adopt our beliefs.

There is a trend today to shut down differing ideas. May I suggest that we spend perhaps half as much time listening to differing ideas as we do shutting those down who disagree with us? We just might find common areas of agreement.

There is also a trend to replace our long held system of government with something that has failed every time that it was adopted.  Our long held system of government provides for corrections and changes. The proposed system endorses one thought and one solution with disagreements met with harsh retribution.  You can vote yourselves into socialism; you cannot vote yourself out of socialism.

Most are aware of Ben Franklin’s famous reply when asked as he emerged from the convention, “Well, Doctor, what have we got—a Republic or a Monarchy?” “A Republic, if you can keep it.”

It is of utmost importance to hear and now understand that “Democracy” is not found in any Founding Document, and “Socialism” is not found in any founding document, much less “Socialist Democracy”!!

Franklin’s alleged description of Democracy is “two wolves and a lamb voting on what to have for dinner.” Thomas Jefferson is alleged by some to have said, “Democracies are dangerous because a Democracy is nothing more than mob rule, where fifty-one percent of the people may take away the rights of the other forty-nine.” Because of that understanding the United States was formed as a Republic.

Socialism is government regulation and controls all aspects of our personal life and businesses. Combining Democracy and Socialism is doubling up on the evils of both. So-called “Democratic Socialism” would completely wipe away the Constitutional Republic which we were given. Individual Freedom with control over our own lives and property would be gone forever under Socialism.

The United States was formed as a Republic by design, with limits upon the government set forth in our Constitution, in order to substantially limit the government’s power and to protect our “natural individual rights.” Our rights of life, liberty, and pursuit of happiness are “natural,” not government-allowed. We formed our government; it did not form us.

Individual Freedom is your right or power to act, speak, or think as you want without hindrance or restraint in your “life” and complete “liberty” to “pursue your own happiness.”

Socialism or “Democratic Socialism” is the exact opposite of a Constitutional Republic. Your life, lived with the liberty to pursue your happiness unhindered and unrestrained, is not allowed in a Socialist government. The movement to destroy our Constitutional Republic and replace it with a Socialist government is led by those people who identify themselves as Democratic Socialists, Communists, Progressives, Liberals, and others. The most common in the United States presently are “Democratic Socialists” and “Progressives.” No matter what the label, make no mistake; all are Socialist or Communist in some form and will eventually lead to complete control of the way we are allowed to live. (1)

Going back to the plumber and the bathroom, right now the water is running full blast and the drain is not connected. The water is out of control and causing damage in its wake. The shut off value is stuck open.  The permanent fix requires new drain pipes and a working shut off value. The temporary fix might be to put extra towels on the floor.

Another problem under socialism is that fear, anxiety, and depression become the normal way of life for the masses.

Let’s just say NO to socialism and YES to our Constitutional Republic.

Reverend Paul N. Papas II is a Pastoral Counselor with Narrow Path Ministries (MA and AZ) and Founder of the Family Renewal Center (AZ)  and




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